Thursday, January 19, 2017

Recap: 'A Birthday and a Birdie'

Bringing Up Bates "A Birthday and a Birdie"

  • Gil and Kelly have a tradition of giving a purity ring to each of their daughters on her 16th birthday. It’s Katie’s turn, and her older sisters help her find an outfit to wear for her dinner date with Mom and Dad. Katie says she isn’t a dressy person, but they insist she wear something fancy.
  • “Watching these young girls grow up to be young ladies is really hard for a dad,” says Gil.
  • When the producer asks why the guys don’t get purity rings, Zach jokingly responds that “the guys in this family don’t get a lot of free things.”
  • “Don’t worry about the ring,” says Lawson. “But if you want to get me a new saddle, maybe even a new pickup truck.” The younger boys say they would love a steak in place of a purity ring.
  • At the restaurant, Gil and Kelly explain the significance of the ring. “This is valuable, but your purity and your life is way more valuable than any ring or trinket or anything in the whole world,” shares Gil. 
  • Katie will wear the gold heart ring--a symbol of her commitment to stay pure, the talk she had with her parents, how much her mom and dad love her, and the goals she has set for herself to pursue godliness--on her right ring finger until her wedding day.
  • “Going into this dinner, I was really nervous, not really knowing what to expect, but it was just great spending time with Mom and Dad, and they made me feel really special.”
  • Later, Gil and Kelly, who have been looking for a permanent meeting place since they started their church plant more than three years ago, visit the building that they recently secured. It doesn’t have a steeple, so they are having one added.
  • Papa Bill and Mama Jane (Gil’s parents) are visiting from South Carolina. Gil, Papa Bill, and Lawson go on a golfing outing. “He’s just been one of my best friends, and I look forward to any chance to be with him,” says Gil of his father, who is 78.
  • “Lawson is a card,” says Papa Bill. “He is very funny. Lawson enjoys golf, but this game doesn’t quite go as well as he hoped it would.
  • Gil asks his son if he needs to have a “large talk,” which is Bates code for, “Are you interested in any girls?” Lawson says no; he is married to music right now.
  • Papa Bill offers up wise advice: “Just remember, whatever decision you make today will determine what decisions are available to you tomorrow.” 
  • At dinner that night, Gil and Kelly single Katie out. “She was ready to hide,” laughs Kelly. “She does not like attention.” While they eat, the family shares birthday praises. Gil's words bring everyone to tears.
    • Carlin: “Katie never ceases to make me laugh.
    • Erin: “Katie is like one of my best friends. I would kind of like to adopt her if mom would let me.”
    • Mama Jane: “Katie tries to make sure I don’t say anything that’s not acceptable. And that’s been a little problem with me through the years. Things I think just come out. But she corrects me.”
    • Kelly: “You’re just so content and so grateful for anything.”
    • Gil: “When I’m getting stressed out about stuff, you say, ‘Dad, it’s alright. It’s going to be okay.’ You help me get the right perspective on things.”

14 comments:

  1. What a wonderful family you look after your daughter's without controlling them many could follow your example God bless you

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  2. I really do wonder why the boys don't get a purity ring (or a purity talk, at least). I mean, if this is something that they value, shouldn't male purity be valuable as well?

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    1. I think they get talks just not showed on tv.

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    2. To amanda: so why not showing it? It create this double standard mythology about women being special snowflakes and men being full of uncontainable desires...

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    3. I have no idea why they don't film their talks with the guys. Maybe those talks contain a bit more language that wouldn't be suitable for younger kids to hear. Maybe the ladies give them permission to fill their talks in hopes of inspiring other young women to remain pure.Women are special. Calling them snowflakes seems rude. Men are special too. The Bates parents tell their kids all the time that they are special. These talks are just one way they show they care and want what's best for them by giving them advice about purity.

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    4. What restaurant did the Bates go to for this special Birthday dinner?

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    5. It would be cool if they showed the purity talk with boys, because boys have a duty to respect women, and boys are usually the initiators of impure activities at that age.

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  3. Goodness! Did anyone notice when Kelly Jo, Gil, and Katie left the table (after giving her the purity ring) there was an entire full salad sitting there along with completely full glasses of tea? Did they not eat while there? Or did they just waste all that?

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  4. I can't stand how they put more importance on a girl's purity than a guy's. It's disgusting.

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    1. I'd like to hear them specifically address this too. Knowing what this family believes, I'm sure they talk to their boys about it.

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    2. I wouldn't assume that they put more importance on a girl's purity than a guy's. They have mentioned before that they talk to their sons about it as well. They don't show most of what they talk about probably due to young viewers. My husband and I give our sons a purity ring as well.

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    3. They don't they just know that boys/girls are different. Girls need a different kind of expression of love to boys and they therefore express their love to them this way. The boys/girls all get the talk well before this- the 16 thing is just a special way of marking that age in their family - I think 16th is bigger than 18th in U.K. Right and most girls/guys are thrown a big party right? Think the girls in this family are first to hit this age while on to anyhow!

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  5. As a Christian, I believe, that unlike securlar life there shouldn't be a double standard between men and women, boys and girls. So, how do Kelly and Gil approach their sons about remaining pure until they get married. A belated Happy Sweet Sixteen to Katie. Blessings to all the family.

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  6. Love this! It's so encouraging to see them encourage one another.

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