Friday, August 19, 2016

Josie Bates Disciplines


Gil and Kelly Bates' calm and intentional discipline tactics have rubbed off on their older children. While Mom and Dad are away on a trip in a recent episode, 16-year-old Josie Bates gently but firmly corrects five-year-old Judson Bates, who has refused to eat his lunch.

Josie: "Look at me. Are you having the right attitude? I at least want you to eat your bologna. You're not allowed to just eat yogurt. Understand me? Look at me."

And surprisingly, Judson sits down and eats. What do you think of the Bates' approach to discipline? Their kids are well behaved, so they must be doing something right.


Photo courtesy of UP

94 comments:

  1. I guess there is a typo in the title! :)

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  2. I think there is a typo...it says "Josie Duggar Disciplines"! Wrong Josie!! ;)

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  3. Josie WHO?!?!?! LOL AHAHA

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  4. I believe you mean Josie Bates :)

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  5. Should the title be Josie Bates Disciplines?

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  6. Lol you wrote Josie Duggar

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  7. This isn't Josie Duggar :)

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  8. Shouldn't it say in the heading "Josie Bates Disciplines"? ;)
    Love your blogs btw!

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  9. That's beautiful Josie Bates not Josie Duggar.

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  10. I don't know about this. Parents definitely should not let children turn them into a short order cook but what if Judson doesn't like bologna?

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    1. Most invalid point here.

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    2. I suspect she knows he likes bologna or she wouldn't have prepared that kind of sandwich for his lunch. Sometimes kids just get stubborn and test their boundaries.

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    3. Even if Judson doesn't like Bologna there is something to be said for developing your child's palate. I was made to eat one piece of everything I didn't like when it was made in a meal for me as a child (2 pieces when I reach double figures in age) and by the time I was 16 if I still didn't like it my parents just accepted that was something I didn't enjoy. I eat pretty much anything now though - I definitely think it's down to their approach!

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    4. Bologna for a palate? It's processed garbage anyway. He shouldn't be eating it. I'm still traumatized from being force fed foods that made me gag as a child because my family members thought I was lying when I said I didn't like them. This video was disturbing to me.

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    5. This is a touchy subject for me as I was made to eat everything on my plate as a child and wound up with an eating disorder. Yes something in addition to yogurt was called for but putting food aside (contain and refrigerate) until the child is hungry is what I did with my children. Different styles for different people I suppose. I do not blame my parents for my ED because as an adult it is up to me to change behavior. That being said being forced to clean a plate set me on the road to an ED.

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  11. You mean Josie Bates?

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  12. Headline reads Josie Duggar. It should say Josie Bates.

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  14. Oooops, title says Josie Duggar rather than Josie Bates

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  16. Did you mean Josie Bates?

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  17. I think you mean Josie Bates, not Josie Duggar. ;)

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  18. You've accidentally titled it "Josie Duggar" instead of Bates lol!

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  19. FYI. I think you mean Josie Bates, not Josie Duggar in your title. :-)

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  20. You have accidentally titled it " Josie Duggar " instead of Bates lol!

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  21. Josie Bates, not Duggar 😊

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  22. The caption says "Josie Duggar" not "Josie Bates". I guess that's the hazard of working on both blogs and each of them having a Josie. I love the blogs, thanks for your hard work on them!!

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  23. Title is wrong. This is about Josie Bates; not Josie Duggar.

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  24. I think you mean bates not duggar...

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  25. Hi there, just wanted to point out to younthat in the blog post headline you put 'Josie Duggar'.

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  26. You titled this Josie duggar.... Not Josie bates.

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  27. Yes Josie handled that quit well. I would have said the samething if Judson was my brother.

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  28. Just a heads up about an easy mistake, you captioned this "Josie Duggar..." instead of "Josie Bates...".

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  29. You mean Josie Bates! LOL!

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  30. Umm, Josie Bates (not Duggar!) Easy mistake when you run both blogs.

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  31. It's Josie Bates, not Duggar (in the headline) :)

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  32. She is πŸ’― right and not waste the food. I agree with her. πŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌ

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  33. Josie BATES. Not duggar

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  34. Umm, Ellie, might want to correct the title. This Josie isn't a Duggar.

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  35. There is a typo in the title of this entry. You wrote Duggar instead of Bates. I love this blog and the show they are such an amazing family.

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  36. I think your titel Should be josie bates

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  37. Hi, just to let you know your headline is Duggar not Bates!

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  38. I've not seen the clip, however the transcript makes me feel uncomfortable. Forcing a child to eat prevents the child from developing and understanding their own hunger cues. Do you know what happens as a result? Obesity and feeding issues as they grow!

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    1. You are right. I was forced to eat everything on my plate growing up. I feel guilty when I leave food on my plate even when full so I eat it till gone. I did not teach my kids this. I really hate the fact we have to eat to survive.

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    2. I think if he ate yoghurts only he'd have more than obesity to worry about πŸ˜† If he was hungry for yoghurt he is hungry enough to try some other foods (more healthy foods too) .... Most children like yoghurts and they are sometimes very sugary (unless natural unsweetened yoghurt)

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    3. You may be right generally speaking, but the child in question is still really small.
      It's not like "I'd rather have meat over fish", he was just misbehaving and refusing to eat a proper meal. Plus, sometimes as a kid you tend to be fussy about food. By encouraging it you may not develop healthy eating habits, while if your parents or older siblings encourage you to eat in the end it will be helpful.

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    4. Bologna is not a proper meal! Come on Bates family. You should know better.

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  39. I think you mean Josie Bates, lol!

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  40. Shouldn't the title be Josie Bates? I was confused at what blog I was reading then haha!

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  41. I never want to point out errors, but I think you mean Josie "Bates". :-) I'm sure it can get easy to mix up names with running both blogs. Thanks for all that you go!

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  42. Isn't it supposed to be bates in the title?

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  43. Wish we could see more discipline. Love to know how things worked when they only had 5 littles!

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  45. I think you meant Josie Bates in the title of the post, not Josie Duggar, right?

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  46. Your title line says Josie Duggar not Bates, whoops.
    I think the discipline works, they seem to have adjusted kids though the youngest are a handful each.
    Kim

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  47. Your title has the wrong last name:)

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  48. Why does it say Josie duggar isn't it supposed to say Josie bates.

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  49. Oops, I think you meant Josie Bates, not Duggar, in your heading!

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  50. Bologna? Really? Why do people feed that junk to their kids?

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    1. I don't blame him! I hate bologna!

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    2. Oh for crying out loud, nothing wrong with some bologna once in a while, especially if it is all beef(meat). I doubt they have a steady diet of it.

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    3. They have fat free bologna and they also have low sodium bologna I found that at my store.
      And bologna is not junk food.

      Judson has eating bologna before in one of the older episodes. Maybe he was hungry at that time.

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  51. Your headline should read "Josie Bates" and not "Josie Duggar". It's an easy mistake to make when you are doing blogs about both families. <3

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  52. Josie Duggar?? Whoops looks like a little typo.

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  53. Oops....check your title! Josie Bates....not Josie Duggar! But love both blogs!

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  54. Haha! That's Josie Bates, not Josie Duggar! But great click bait! ;-) I opened it cause I was like "Josie Duggar is a little young to be in charge!" It's cool though, I'm sure you're not the first to make that typo!

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  55. I think you mean" Josie Bates disciplines." Love your blog

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  56. I think their approach is wonderful. They could be a bit more firmer with the 2 younger ones, but all in all I think they do a fine job.

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  57. Why would you post this without posting a video clip...

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  58. I'm not sure about this...parents (and older siblings in this case) shouldn't have to be everyone's personal chef, but children should also be allowed to develop their own preferences and learn how to manage their own hunger. Maybe it would have helped to work out a compromise with Judson eating a healthy food that he enjoys instead.

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    1. It makes sense, but I guess that's not possible for them: when you have 20 people at the dinner table you can't make a different dish for everyone, it would be insane.

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  59. I have misgivings about having older siblings discipline the younger ones. I guess in such a large family it is going to happen. However, I think that it is placing unfair responsibility on them...it's hard enough for the parents! Every child can be so different and not respond as well to certain discipline methods as they would to others. The Bates do seem to have generally well-behaved kids, but the viewing audience is not privy to them 24/7.

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  60. Bologna is disgusting. Give the kid real meat, egg or peanut butter but don't go cray cray because the kid doesn't like pigs eyelashes and lips ... He knows exactly what's in yoghurt ...

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    1. Did you know many yoghurts contain gelatin? You probably want to look up where that comes from. People in countries around the world eat all parts of the animal and would not consider bologna to be 'disgusting', in fact many people would be happy to have a choice of what to eat. Perhaps you ought to do a little bit more learning and spend less time writing inane comments on here.

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    2. Bologna is high in salt and nitrates. The World Health Organization has classified such processed meats as a Group 1 carcinogen.

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    3. Bologna is probably the most processed food in America.

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    4. You can get bologna in the deli now. My store has low sodium bologna as well. I've gotten it in my store all the time.

      Why don't you leave people alono they can eat what they want.

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    5. Mountain High yogurt has no gelatin or fillers. Much healthier than carcinogenic bologna.

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  61. It's hard to say without seeing the video. It's all in the tone of voice.

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  62. Oh my days, some of the previous comments such as 'maybe the child doesn't feel like eating' 'you'll give them an eating disorder' are simply ridiculous. Parents have a responsibility to give their children a balanced meal, vegetables, protein, dairy products. Sometimes it's chicken, sometimes it's bologna, depends on your food budget and what the rest of your family likes to eat. Allowing children to pick and choose what they eat is not only unhealthy, but completely impractical, man cannot live on yoghurt alone! Give people a break, they are doing a great job raising happy, loved children.

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    1. So you think children should be forced to eat foods they don't like? There is a big difference between not being in the mood for a certain food and just plain not liking it.

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    2. I don't like to take out the trash, yet my mother taught me that just because I don't like something is NO reason to be disobedient. SO what if he doesn't like bologna. I don't like brocoli and yet I was made to eat what was on my plate and be thankful for it. It's a lesson most of America wasn't taught.

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  63. Her tone was gentle but firm and totally appropriate. There's nothing wrong with an older sibling being left in charge of younger ones from time to time. She is employing the some methods we saw Gil use during the beach trip. The child was just being unruly. He was probably given a choice of sandwich items and chose bologna. It makes sense to require him to eat and not waste his food.

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  64. Got to love the look on his face though. LOL

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  65. I am loving that 56 people commented about the typo, as if that was the only thing that actually mattered about this video, instead of an older sibling taking responsibility for her little brother, and Judson learning that he can't have his own way and he needs to be obedient to those in charge. Great video :)

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