Two days ago, Katie Clark, mom to Hailey Clark and Harvey Clark, announced that she had recently suffered a miscarriage. Late last night, Travis Clark posted a confession to his social media. The nursing school student states that he had an affair. Parade wrote an article that contains the statement. We know the Clark and Bates families, especially Katie and her children, would appreciate prayer and privacy during this time.
If they want "privacy" they shouldn't post this sort of stuff on the internet.
ReplyDelete@10:09 I feel he had to do it before the other woman had a chance to. She held all the cards when this was a secret.
DeleteI'm hearing the woman he cheated with was going to go public with it.
DeleteExactly. 90% of population would have never known about Travis'infidelity if he had not posted that statement. Now the world knows
DeleteI disagree. I think that Travis made the right decision by coming clean before it got out. Eventually it would have come out, and by then it would have been a scandal.
DeleteTravis made a decision to be in the public eye as an influencer and and an evangelist. Not only is he a role model, he is also a messenger of the Lord. His followers look up to him and respect him. If he didn't acknowledge this now, the public would find out about it later- maybe years later, but they would eventually find out- and by then it would be unforgivable. Not only would people have lost trust in him, but people would have lost trust in the Bates Family, and maybe all evangelists. How many times has that happened in the past when pastors and evangelists have fallen away and not been honest to their followers? No, Travis did the right thing. Quite possibley the most honorable thing that he has done all year.
@6:29 Baloney. This man (child) does not need to be put on any sort of pedestal or applauded for admitting what he did. That is no silver lining. You can't do bad things but then get bonus points for how you admit you did them.
Delete@6:29 Travis came clean because he got caught and before someone else spilled the beans. I don't think it was noble at all.
DeleteWe can give grace but he did violate the marriage covenant. Wouldn't be surprised if they get a divorce.
DeleteTravis Clark’s behavior has wiffs of psychopathy. Cheating is cheating and it’s the ultimate betrayal BUT Travis took it further by bringing his girlfriend right under his wife’s nose. This is a huge thrill for psychopaths- getting away with it in front of your face. They love the meaness and cruelty of playing people. Travis imo only cares that he got caught. This is likely not the last we’ve heard from him.
DeletePraying for Kate and the children. Travis you have a lot of explaining to God. Very disappointed in your life choice, it really damages your testimony in song.
DeleteSuch a betrayal is devastating, but that it's public just makes it more so. I sincerely hope that Katie isn't pressured into staying with this guy. This should be another wake up call to everyone who thinks these Christian celebrity mega families are living perfect lives. The old adage applies... if it looks to good to be true, it likely is.
ReplyDelete@10:26 Agree. The call is always coming from inside the house. Don't idolize these people or their lifestyles. Stop giving them attention. They are not superhuman. They do wrong things, despite how influential, squeaky clean, or "saved" they want you to believe they are. They lure you in with that and then the whopping secrets come out. Who are the people you know who are the best examples of good behavior and lives well lived? I'll bet you they were never on a TV reality show, or associated with one.
DeleteI can't believe the affair is true! So sad. I heard rumors of it, but didn't believe it for one second...there's so much rubbish out there. That's very sad that Katie had a miscarriage too. Too sad.
ReplyDeleteI didn’t want to believe it was true either but now its on the family blog. Not to mention they havent come out and denounced it either
DeleteIt seems to me that they should have been concerned about their privacy, especially the privacy of their children, a long time ago. That train has left the station.
ReplyDeleteI am sadly not surprised at all. This is what happens when you get married too young. I hope Katie divorces him.
ReplyDeletePrivacy....so we announce this to the entire world. And we allow every tabloid and (paid) magazine to publish the story. I don't get that. They really don't get it either.
ReplyDeleteIf they really wanted privacy, they wouldn't be on social media like they are.
DeleteTOTALLY AGREE. The immaturity from all of them is truly unreal.
DeleteTravis has certainly caused a stir in this pristine family. I hope none of the others have this kind of confession to make.
ReplyDeleteWhy am I not surprised. Two youngsters from sheltered backgrounds, barely old enough to be legal, get married and have kids bam bam bam. One gets a taste of what the rest of the world is like and that's it. If this isn't a cry from a miserable Travis to be let out of his responsibilities, if this isn't a reality to getting married young and not learning about yourself by dating and getting an education first, I don't know what is. "Traditional values"? Travis just pulled the oldest trick in the book.
ReplyDeleteGuess what? People from every background, every age, whenever they get married have affairs. It is shocking and awful and a nasty side to human nature that sadly occurs too often throughout time.
DeleteSo very sorry to hear this sad news. Katie (and Travis), you are in our prayers. Take it one day, sometimes one hour at a time and know that God will lead you through all of this.
ReplyDeletePraying for y’all❤️trust God and He will see you through these hard times!!
DeleteThis news was a shock to hear. I am sending my best wishes to Katie, as she deals with such a difficult time.
ReplyDeletePoor sweet girl. My heart breaks for her and those who love her.
ReplyDeleteWas that really a necessary thing for him to acknowledge/confess publicly? I'm not talking about her miscarriage. It's ok to keep some things between you and your wife. My heart goes out to Katie. What a way to start a new year.❤️
ReplyDeleteYes it was necessary for T to put out a statement to stop the rumours from growing & potentially vilifying & humiliating Katie further & causing more pain. I doubt either of them will engage much on social media anymore.
DeleteSadly it seems T totally overstretched himself moving state away from his parents & hometown, new home, nursing school, producing music & tours & editing for what was their YouTube channel. An exhausted brain & body leads to compromising boundaries & a weary soul overtime leads to escapism of some sort. This is not an excuse for his behaviour by any means because he could have stopped any of those things & said it's too much, just insight to how it can easily happen.
You explained it very compassionately. Thank you for showing another perspective.
Delete01/18/26 @ 9:31- Oh c’mon! You make it sound like forgot to pay his utility bill for the month??!!
DeleteThankful there are people out there with the insight to see the root of the problem. Travis is such a young man and Katie has her mom’s drive for organization and control. The pressure became too much, and he’s so genuinely nice it was too hard to stand up for himself. Sending prayers that they both continue to stick with counseling and the acceptance of contributory negligence.
DeleteSo much for purity culture creating moral superiority. It doesn't. It was the foundation for the Bates' and Duggar's narrative though. That foundation has well crumbled, not just with those families but throughout their church world.
ReplyDeleteThey will use his behavior to justify their avoidance of public school, colleges, and “real” jobs. The evils of nursing school led him to this abhorrent behavior!
ReplyDelete1:17 Riiiiiight. It couldn't possibly have been his own weakness and bad choices, could it. Has to be that dangerous "worldly" influence that everyone else is doing. An attack!
DeleteI was thinking the same thing. They'll blame the schools
DeleteI can't believe Travis chose to publicly humiliate Katie. Publicly confessing his sin and yes that's what it is, won't take it away. Only God can heal those kinds of wounds. These children were way too young to get married in the first place. Neither of them had experienced living. There is a difference between real love and lust. That is why dating different people instead of marrying the first person you go out with is how you find out who the right person is. No I didn't say have premarital sexual relationships which are also a sin, but just take the time to figure out what's right. I sincerely hope they can find a way to mend this broken trust and put their marriage back together. It will take a lot of work, but it's possible. God bless your family.
ReplyDeleteKatie isn’t humiliated or responsible for his sin. Put the blame where it belongs.
DeleteI would be humiliated for everyone in the whole world to know that my husband had an affair. Of course it was not her fault. Just saying it should have been kept private between the two of them.
DeleteYou can say that again. Being overwhelmed in any aspect of your life isn’t an excuse to be a total clod and cheat on your family. If you’re that overwhelmed, see a therapist, pick up a sport like boxing, or get a good hobby
DeleteI never would’ve expected it from Travis. Extremely disappointed in him!
ReplyDeleteI'm disappointed when it rains on a parade. Travis' betrayal and public announcement of it after his wife miscarried is absolutely horrifying.
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ReplyDeleteI hope they save their marriage and his affair ended.
ReplyDeleteHer brothers need to have a conversation with him - behind the wood shed
ReplyDeleteYes, then he'll stay with her because he's afraid of getting beaten up again. Just what every woman wants.
DeleteOh please. Her brothers need to stay out of it and let them solve their marital issues on their own.
DeleteRepeatedly... Now there's a choice.
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ReplyDeleteMy heart feels completely broken for Katie.
ReplyDeleteI'm not surprised, as they seemed unhappy together from the beginning. I feel like this marriage was forced upon them by their parents (especially Travis' parents) while they were both immature and unprepared for marriage. But what IS a surprise--is the need to post this on social media! And now that this bomb has been dropped publicly, we are supposed to give them privacy and pretend we didn't see it?
ReplyDeleteI thought his parents were the ones telling him to finish his degree first before getting married?
DeleteI wholeheartedly agree! Too young and different! However, to my recollection, it was Katie who was pushing the engagement and marriage. Travis wanted to complete his studies and he had to rush to buy and refurbish a house, get married before he finished school to give her what she wanted. Travis encouraged and wanted a Katie to go to Nursing school with him, but she opted to be a stay at home mom (nothing is wrong with that, but avid blessed the child who has their own). She like many of her siblings feel that they should push out one baby after the next and not excel or make something of themselves, which is so important because anything can happen (sickness, death, divorce), and what does she have to fall back on. Travis was frugal and Katie liked to spend at any expense. They were different, but it doesn’t excuse him having an affair!! No one knows what type of “affair” he had, but that’s between him, his wife and God!
DeleteI believe she studied Cosmotology, but had always had an interest in nursing and was still open to studying it one day. If i were her, i would move back in with the parents after separating from Travis, who may still want to enjoy his youth, and start studying nursing, possibly the same shorter course that Michaela did.
DeleteI’m very sorry to hear this. Praying for Katie - Katie you’re an inspiration to me as a mom and a wife and I’ve been married almost 13 years with four kids. You are beautiful and so patient and kind to your family
ReplyDeleteSo utterly heart breaking!
ReplyDeleteI strongly believe that this should of remained private, Travis was wrong for what ever reason to share it. I have been following the Bates family for years and have no doubt this has caused immense pain, especially for Katy. The court of public opinion is a cruel and unforgiving place. I wish them well moving forward.
ReplyDeleteThis would never have remained private. It would have eventually leaked out; and if Travis had not confessed, I believe that it would have been much, much worse later on down the road. People would have not only been angry with him, but with everyone who knew him, including the Bates family ( they would have been accused of covering this up from the public).
DeleteSadly, Transparency is the price that one must pay for fame and fortune ( and let's face it, if Travis had not married a Bates, no one would know his name).
My guess is that he shared it publicly because the side chick threatened to do it herself and he beat her to it. I'd imagine that she got tired of seeing the wholesome posts on social media when she knew Travis was not so wholesome.
DeleteExactly, 8:57. This way, he controlled what was said. So it was self-serving, which is on the list along with cheating.
DeleteI heard about it,but didn't believe it at first until I saw stuff pouring all over social media about it. My heart goes out to Katie and the kids at this time. ❤️ I hope Travis can go to a good Christian counselor who deals with something like this and can work on saving his marriage to Katie. Maybe he should quit nursing school or go remotely online to avoid contact with female students so this doesn't end up happening again. I'm sure it was unintentional and just happened without it meaning to go too far and end up cheating on his wife. Sometimes friendships with classmates of the opposite sex can accidentally go too far. That's why you got to be careful if you are a student who is dating or married.
ReplyDelete"Christian counselor" - no! They'd only blame Katie and make things worse for her. "Unintentional" - no!! Totally intentional decision. Don't downplay what he did. "Just happened without it meaning to go too far." Again - no! You're implying that only going "so far" is OK but "too far" is not, and that's not true. There should be no "going" at all. "Accidentally" - what? He accidentally fell into her arms? Come on.
Delete"Good Christian counseling" didn't work out so well for the eldest Duggar. If Travis has to avoid any contact with females in the future, other than his wife, in order to avoid being tempted and having an affair, it means he cannot be trusted... ever.
Delete“Unintentional “ and “accidentally?” Nope! A lot of decisions are made when cheating and there’s time to stop before it starts. He did it “repeatedly.” No excuses. I hope she gets a divorce and has her family’s support.
Delete4:36 Cheating on your spouse is intentional. And it's no accident. An unintentional accident is when you trip and bump into someone, or forget to put the cap back on the toothpaste.
DeleteI don’t think quitting nursing school and hiding away from other people is a good solution. Adults have to learn how to handle temptations. If Travis can’t control himself then he needs counseling and help
DeleteI don’t think quitting nursing school and hiding away from other people is a good solution. Adults need to learn how to handle temptations. If Travis can’t control himself then he needs counseling and help.
DeleteLearning how to handle temptations is something taught to you as a kid. His parents should have had a talk (or twelve) with him long before now. That behavior (getting what you want in the moment) is not something you should be learning as an adult. It should be ingrained by then.
Deleteplease keep this private
ReplyDeleteToo late unfortunately
DeleteSo sorry to hear that Katie suffered a miscarriage, my thoughts and prayers are with her. I was extremely shocked to hear of Travis's confession.
ReplyDeleteWhat shocked me even more if that was possible, Katie on social media visibly upset about losing a child, and then Travis's confession on social media.
Somethings should be kept private.
Hailey and Harvey will someday find out about what has happened, because of social media.
The post states please grant the Clark Family privacy, then why share such terrible happenings on social media?
Affairs don't just happen, you not only cheat on your spouse, you are also cheating on your children.
Hopefully, they get off social media.
Absolutely!
DeleteSo sorry Katie has to go through these two things at the same time! Each one would be bad enough on it’s own. 😢 Prayers going up for her!
ReplyDeleteThis is so awful. Why did Travis think admitting to this publicly would be wise?
ReplyDeleteHe is making a lot of bad choices. He not only cheated on his wife, but he also cheated on his kids, the time he spent with the person he cheated with, was time away from his kids.
DeleteHe probably got pressured by his own family or one of his in-laws to come clean about his affair before the tabloid's got to the story first.
DeleteHe probably was afraid to speak to her about it privately.
DeleteThat was my thought.
Delete@754: if you’ll look @ another bates family blog that updates on them frequently you’ll see Katie has posted an update about where she stands on everything & why he went public with his apology.
DeleteThis breaks my heart for Katie. So sorry you have endured back to back heartbreak. I'll be praying for you.
ReplyDeletePassed behavior is a very good indication of future behavior but people change if they want to. I'm sure Travis and Katie will decide what's best for them.
DeletePassed behavior is a very good indication of future behavior but people change if they want to. Travis and Katie will decide what's best for them
DeleteI have always said nothing is private in these families. To the above person who said FIND A GOOD CHRISTIAN counselor to talk to. Alot good it did JOSH. Get real. It's up to them if they want to move on not her parents' brothers etc. They are to Consenting ADULTS. You made this matter PRIVATE SO FACE THE MUSIC.
ReplyDeleteFor all those who say why did T make a public confession on social media - there was already rumours going around the last few weeks & to stop those rumours growing & all sorts said including Katie & causing her more pain I'm guessing he decided to make the statement to put an end to that. The secret was going to come out somehow. So sad.
ReplyDeletePoor Katie must be absolutely devastated & heartbroken - losing the baby & discovering her husbands infidelity within days .... such a heavy load to bear 😢
She knew about the infidelity before that. All signs point to it.
DeleteFor those wondering why he would make it public — can you not see how people behave like vultures? Apparently rumors were already going around. Apparently people have enough time on their hands to stalk Katie’s social media to see what she posts (and why) and who she follows and unfollows. Because people behave this way, it’s better for him to get this part behind them so they can take a step forward without waiting for someone to do that for them. Unfortunately people thoroughly enjoy revealing these things.
ReplyDeleteFor the life of me, I cannot understand why people revel in something like this. There is only one perfect and righteous judge, and that is God. He knows what happened, how it happened, and when it happened, but bigger than that, He knows the heart behind it and He tells us that the heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked and no one can know it. So to blame so-called purity culture, or to blame their sheltered upbringing or to blame the fact that they didn’t go to college — whatever else you can come up with — shows a complete lack of understanding of human nature and of the heart because that’s where these things come from, so therefore, it can happen to anyone because we all have sin in our hearts that eventually can lead to outward sin. You’re not exempt from that because you didn’t have a sheltered upbringing and you’re not exempt from that because you went to college and you’re not exempt from that because you didn’t grow up in “purity culture.” Guess what? You can sin too, so the only thing that should be done right now is to pray for these two and for their children and for the incredible hurt that they are facing.
And for anyone who wants to come at me and say we don’t need to pray for Travis or he doesn’t deserve any pity, I’m not giving him pity. He’s going to live with this every day for the rest of his life. The book of Proverbs makes it clear that adultery brings a level of shame that never goes away. God is able to forgive and heal in time and that should be our only hope for them; not hoping she divorces him or hoping somebody learns a lesson — how cruel! I’m glad God doesn’t view us that way. Jesus died for our sin. I pray that Travis would humbly and truly repent, and that God would heal Katie’s broken heart which is going to take a lot of time but God is able.
Nice composition, but unfortunately, humans have to keep other humans in line and responsible. God does not come down, stand in front of a sinner, and teach him a lesson on the spot. Society is tasked with that, and we've created standards and laws to do that. God and Jesus may give us a moral compass to follow, but it's the people around you who make sure you follow it and impose punishment if you don't.
Delete9:47 unfortunately you appear to be giving Travis too much thought and sympathy. The one thing the Bible makes clear about adultery, is that is the one Biblical reason for divorce. It appears after four years of marriage he is cheating and does not want to be married. My love and sympathy go to the true victims, Katie and the children.
DeleteWell said! Good way to put it🙏🏽
DeleteBeautifully stated…Yes, God is able to lead in true repentance and forgiveness and love. Praying for them.
DeleteIt seems to me that this family could have avoided the judgement and gossip by keeping their lives private from the get-go, rather than exploiting themselves on their YouTube channel and social media.
Delete@9:47 No doubt, there were plenty of prayers for this couple when they got married. I don't think prayers are going to help now. The stark reality is that there a people, both men and women, who cheat on their spouses and don't feel shame, just regret that they were caught. When someone betrays you in such a way, believe them the first time and save yourself from further heartache and manipulation by a narcissist. It's my hope that Katie saves herself.
Delete9:47 If this family hadn't exploited themselves publicly for years, no one would be reveling in anything right now. It seems you're trying to minimize Travis' betrayal by deflecting to the "we all sin" angle. In order to feel shame, you must first have a conscience. Some people simply do not have one. Travis doesn't deserve Katie's forgiveness and he certainly doesn't deserve her trust. No spouse who has been treated this way should be expected to forgive and forget, or stay in such a toxic relationship.
Delete"There is only one perfect and righteous judge, and that is God." Try getting out of a traffic ticket in court with that thought. You're living on earth not in heaven. And yes, sheltered and strict upbringings do lead to more temptation. You said it yourself - sin in the heart. The more you tell a kid to stay away from something, and you can't give them a rational reason why (like, it'll burn you or physically hurt you), the more tempting it becomes. Human nature.
DeleteThe affair did not just happen. Travis knew right from wrong, and decided to cheat. He should never have put his apology on social media. Also, being so distraught, because of the loss of child, but then deciding to put it on social media, then asking for privacy.
ReplyDeleteI believe they have been sharing their lives for so long, they do not know what privacy means.
Praying will not keep this marriage together. Did Travis pray about whether he should have an affair, obviously not.
How was he able to look at Katie or his children every time he left the home to cheat?
I wonder what the timeline was. Did Travis have his affair a while ago, and that's why they shut down their YouTube channel? Through therapy, Katie decided to stay together, heal, and try for another baby? Then maybe when the miscarriage was announced, the woman he had the fling with, threatened him that she'd go public with the affair, out of jealousy? So Travis had to go public first?
ReplyDeleteYou all seem SHOCKED this Travis had an affair. Just because it's the Bates daughter your shocked . We have all fallen short of the GLORY OF GOD. No need to judge him. This family is no different then others. We aren't perfect people
ReplyDeleteIt is shocking because he openly talked about and seemed to live a wholesome, Christian, family centered life. When someone has a hidden, secret life that destroys the testimony they openly proclaim, it is shocking. And it should be upsetting—Katie and her kids have by far been the most betrayed, but he did betray the trust of his fans as well.
Delete2:11. This is about the person who cheated on his wife, Travis. Katie and the children are the innocent victims of this liar and cheater, obviously he doesn’t want to be married to Katie. Hoping she divorces him and gets on with her life. A Holy God gives one Biblical reason for divorce and that is adultery. We shouldn’t be watering down that he committed adultery.
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Delete2:11 This famly IS different from others, as they've exploited themselves on TV and social media as a means to promote their religous convictions. They set themselves up to be judged, so people are free to express their opinions about them.
DeleteI think it's odd that some people think their response to people putting themselves out there publically should be judging them.
Delete@8:07pm I was thinking that was odd also. Some people can be so negative and think the worst.
DeleteGoing to college with a lot of female nurses.. At what age did they marry, and was Katie his first girlfriend? It’s not a good idea to get married so young in my opinion. The adolescent brain apparently doesn't mature unti age 25.
ReplyDeleteI think Travis will regret posting this news publicly. It might have made him feel better in the moment admitting the affair, but now the whole world knows and that will hurt Katie and the children further. I think they were too young to get married and I still remember watching a Bates video where Travis was getting heavy pressure from Katie’s siblings to give Katie an engagement ring. There is no excuse for an affair, but I do think Travis is under an incredible amount of pressure at school and home and wonder if the affair was some sort of an escape from reality for him. I believe they BOTH need marriage counseling. Although there is no excuse for having an affair, they both need to look at mistakes in the marriage and work hard to try to get things back on track if possible.
ReplyDeleteIMO, infidelity is a deal breaker. The only mistakes Katie may have made that she should evaluate are any red flag she missed… before they got married. A big mistake I think some women make is that somehow a man is a plan and he’ll always be there for you. Stuff happens.
DeleteYou're right... there's no excuse for having an affair. So, whether or not Travis has been under more pressure than anyone else is beside the point.
Delete5:58 we need to zero in our the perpetrator, the liar, the cheater..that being Travis. There was no excuse for him to cheat on his wife of four years with a baby and a toddler. It will be hard for Katie to trust again, he stomped on that trust like it was a dirty rag. The best thing for Katie, since she has a Biblical reason to do so, is divorce him. She needs a man she can trust and respect, Travis had a chance and he blew it.
Delete@5:58 It appears that the only mistake Katie made was marrying and trusting this loser. She has everything to risk and lose by staying with him. IMO, there's no getting this train back on the track.
DeleteSounds like you're cutting Travis some serious slack... he was under "heavy pressure", they both made mistakes in the marriage. Phooey... he's a liar and a cheat, not to be trusted. Apparently, Katie entertained his side honey in their own home, not having a clue as to what was going on.
DeleteWhen you cheat on your spouse you are cheating on your family!
ReplyDeletePassed behavior is a very good indication of future behavior but people change if they want to. I'm sure with time Travis and Katie will decide what's best for them.
ReplyDeleteI hope Katie decides what is best for HER. Travis can pound sand, IMO.
DeleteI feel so sad for Katie and her children. My prayers are with them.
ReplyDeleteI pray she takes her kids and goes home for awhile. She needs love and support not a world or judgement.
ReplyDeleteI agree! A safe place for them to be to heal
DeleteI'm so sorry for Katie and her kids. She is an incredible good mom and wife. She and her kids don't deserve that. Travis isn't a good human being. He says he is "christian" and goes to the church and sings christian music and by the other side He cheated on her and her kids repeatedly. A true Godly man never never never act as a liar. He is completely false. He doesn't respect Katie and their kids.
ReplyDeleteI hope Katie understands the reality and get divorced. She is so young and She can find an excellent man who loves and respects Her and Her kids too. Travis don't deserve that beautiful family. Katie deserve the best and their kids too. It' s not about religion, it's about dignity.
10:27 Absolutely, well said. Divorce him now..she has a real Biblical reason. This behavior of cheating is deeply rooted..just think of all the devious acts he had to perform before he actually cheated with the girl. Without thinking of consequences, he flirted, developed a relationship with this girl, then acted on his lustful desires..and then in the most cruel way he announces this publicly. This is not a humble man who is seeking forgiveness to continue a marriage..this is a man looking for pity, putting himself first before his beautiful wife and children.
DeleteOh my. To be honest, I don't think Travis wants to be married any longer or he wouldn't have set off that bomb on social media.
ReplyDelete11:28 you are 100% correct! If he really wanted to be forgiven and taken back he would not have brutally announced his adultery on social media...hope Katie takes the Biblical approach and divorces her cheating husband…
Delete11:28. Thats exactly my thought. As someone who has gone through this awful betrayal that is my conclusion. Travis wants out but doesn’t have the courage to admit it.
DeleteWow, what a shock and betrayal. My heart goes out to Katie. She has a lot to consider, divorce or stay with him. My life experiences have shown that if a man does that so early in the marriage and at such a young age they usually become repeat offenders. I would definitely not have anymore children with him, since down the road she may be raising the children alone. Poor Katie, losing a baby and having to deal with her husband broken’s vows, deepest sympathy to Katie..
ReplyDeleteTravis having a affair can lead to dangerous situations for your whole family. Feeling gets involved and you don't know what this woman will do to keep you. I don't know if you really want to save your marriage. It wasn't just one time but many. You can't be friends with the opposite sex. You was living a double life.
ReplyDeletePeople can be friends with the opposite sex if they're both mature and rational about it. It also depends on how close the friendship is. Do you get together every week or just a few times a year? Is your spouse invited along? Are you in public? At work and being professional? Not everyone is a threat and not everyone is looking to cheat. Unfortunately, Travis didn't play by those rules and neither did the other girl. A little flirtation and he was off to the races.
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ReplyDeletePoor sweet Katie!
ReplyDeletePublically announcing your infidelity right after your wife miscarries is a whole new realm of cruelty. I think this young woman owes it to herself to get some serious professional counseling, and not the pray -it -away, forgive- and -forget kind. At the same time, she should seek out the services of a good divorce lawyer, IMO. This young adulterer is too immature and full of himself.
ReplyDeleteKatie, take your kids and run
ReplyDeleteThat was quite a revelation. I wonder what else is going on behind the scenes. Time for Gil and Kelly to do some damage control.
ReplyDeleteWow!!! Did not see that coming at all. He experienced a whole new world while getting his nursing degree. However still don’t make it right. Prayers for this family.
ReplyDeletePraying for y’all❤️trust God and He will see you through these hard times!!
ReplyDeleteThat poor girl he cheated with. Her life is also now a mess. What she did is all over the tabloids and internet. I can't imagine she feels safe right now. All for what? To get a man who is a proven cheater? She's young, foolishly carried on with a married man, and now has to live with that. I hope she gets counseling too. Nobody wins in these situations.
ReplyDeleteShe probably knew he was married. She is as low as he is. The only innocent ones in this is Katie and her children.
DeleteShe knew he was married. She knew what she was doing. She also knew she was involved with a social media man has over 400k followers. Reserve your sympathy for the innocent victims here, Katie and the kids.
DeleteShe CHOSE to have an affair with a married man and father. No sympathy.
DeletePoor girl. She had an affair with man she knew was married. She put herself in the tabloids and the internet by her actions. Travis cheated on his wife & and kids. The only innocents in this are Katie, Hailey & Harvey. So far only Lawson has said something, kind of surprised nothing from Zach or her other brothers.
DeleteNobody said she was innocent. You can feel sorry for someone who has done something like this. Sorry for someone who thought this was a game to play. Sorry for someone who didn't realize it wouldn't end well. She messed up royally and got herself into trouble. Think if she were your daughter.
DeleteKatie is facing so much pain. I am praying for her. Sometimes life can be so very hard. It’s so sad
ReplyDeleteThis family is a OPEN BOOK! To public with births etc . Now this . So now you pay the price for it.
ReplyDeleteI agree with commentors..it was a big mistake for Travis to announce this grievous behavior in a public forum. After only four years of marriage, he is cheating..disgusting! His behavior is one of an egotistical man, bad enough he cheats..then he announces it publicly after his wife has just had a miscarriage. If I were her parents I would encourage her to get a divorce, she has a biblical reason. He doesn’t appear to be a man who wants to be married, and has caused her so much grief.
ReplyDeleteEither his wife, mistress, or his in-laws forced him to do that announcement, one way or the other. I doubt he wanted to speak out himself. Probably wanted to crawl under a rock.
DeleteAs someone who has had a miscarriage, her hormones are all over the place and not in a state of mind to make life altering decisions. I pray she and her kids are being well taken care of by her family and can rest and heal from everything. So sad.
ReplyDeleteMy heart is broken for Katie and her precious little children!
ReplyDeleteI wonder how Travis would feel if Katie was the one having an affair. Man usually don't take it well or put up with it because their ego will be crushed and the woman will be called all kinds of names.
ReplyDeleteAll of these comments about the age they got married… both sets of my grandparents married young. They were 17 and 18, and 20 and 21 (respectively). My mom was 23 when she married my dad. All have had long, happy marriages with no infidelity. It isn’t the age; it’s what’s in the heart. If you have good character, and you truly love your spouse, you won’t cheat. Simple as that.
ReplyDelete@11:16 People are complicated, and they can also be very good at hiding things they don't want others to know. You have no way of being 100% certain that your relatives had long happy marriages, with no infidelity or other surprises.
DeleteKatie should ask herself these questions. Did you catch him cheating or did he confess? If you caught him. He’d still be living the lie. How long was the affair going? Did he bring the girl into your home during that Christmas party? If so that’s a level of disrespect and disregard for you.
ReplyDeleteTravis needs to ask himself if he truly wants to be married because for the rest of his life he will walk into family gatherings and the people he will sit with will know what kind of man he is. He may be forgiven but I promise you no one will see you the same. Ever.
Lastly, it’s like they’ve never watched a crime documentary. Jealousy leads to danger. You risked Katie and your kids safety. You ruined your families brand. I deleted the 4 songs I purchased of yours off my iTunes and I’ve seen your family sing a few times and I’ll never go to another. Not because they did anything wrong but because you hoped we all seen your faith in all you did. I see the devil and a level of arrogance I never thought possible. I truly hope and pray you get help and find your way back. I just hope you love Katie enough to let her go. Let her live a life without worry that her husband is cheating
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ReplyDeleteShe is young and naive and made a really dumb choice, so yes, in that way, we can feel sorry for her. She wrecked her life too, at least for now. Hard to live with that when you're so young. I'm sure she's feeling all sorts of things right now and is probably confused about how to find her way out of this mess. Think back to when you were that age. "More to be pitied than censured."
DeleteI think life is like a swimming pool. IMO parents need to teach their children to swim, not shield them from life like the Btaes so and then encourage their children to jump in the deep end of the pool by getting married and have a bunch of kids. Guess we'll see how Gil and Kelly respond to this disaster.
ReplyDeleteOf course she feels humiliated by what he did! How would you feel in her shoes?
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ReplyDeleteThey were too consenting adults who chose to get married at age 20. That was their choice and that's what they both wanted, so we can't dissect their past options and blame the spouse. Travis knew what he was doing when he made that choice.
ReplyDeleteWill Gil’s “Ugly Secretary” sermon apply to this case of adultery too??
ReplyDeleteYes, 12:10. I thought of that too, and sadly the number of women Gil harmed by shaming them for their husband’s actions.
DeleteTo all of us Christian wives who were hurt by “ugly secretary” sermons and teachings..I see you..I am you.
DeleteExplain for those of us who don't know the context
DeleteThis is heartbreaking to say the least. I initially thought this was the tabloid sharks coming after clicks since they were no longer on youtube. This will touch and shatter every part of each of their lives. This will devastate his music career. So sad for them. Prayers for God to work good for them no matter the choices made in moving forward.
ReplyDeleteThis has caused quite a buzz. I hope they stay off the internet and work things out without anymore stuff being posted on social media
ReplyDeleteThis is just so sad!
ReplyDeleteThis is just awful and I feel your pain. I stayed and always wondered Who? What? When? Where? Why? and How?. You can forgive but will never for. I hope Travis really wants to save the marriage and change his evil ways. Stay away from the world.
ReplyDeleteIt seems very odd to me that he would confess publicly..he isn’t a star or influencer. Not only is it humiliating to Katie, this is alerting all future employees in the nursing field what bad character he has and poor choices he makes.
ReplyDeleteThat is an excellent point
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DeleteI agree. People might think twice about hiring him now
Delete@6:44. If you or a family member were in a medical condition requiring a hospital would you ask your nurse if they were faithful to their spouse before accepting aid?
DeleteIt’s the Human Resources department at a hospital that could look at his social media and then decide not to HiRE him in the first place. So he wouldn’t get hired. So it wouldn’t even get as far as a patient asking him if he had an affair. That’s why they tell people to be careful what you post. Because employers do background checks etc. They don’t like hiring people that will cast the employer in a bad light.
DeleteHis a. p. (adultery partner) thought she had some power over him. When Travis beat the a. p. on that move and took away her rewards for a tell all to the press and was first to speak out to the world he disarmed her.
DeleteOkay people as the Bible says who has no sin cast the first stone I just see a lot of judgemental and just plain rude comments on here what Travis did was wrong. But it should be none of our business to judge. Leave Katie and Travis alone. They don’t need people who are rude and judgmental leaving hideous remarks on here. Give them their privacy and please do not say well they should not put it on instagram
ReplyDeleteCalling out rude and judgemental comments...isn't that judgemental too? Hard to discern that thought circle.
Delete2:55. No one is being judgmental to the innocent victim, Katie. People are responding to a shocking and deep betrayal of this cheating husband. Adultery has always been seen as a cruel and sinful act, that is way the Bible gives the only reason for divorce as adultery. Not sure why you are sympathetic to Travis, he doesn’t deserve it.. Katie and kids are the only ones who deserve our sympathy.
DeleteWhen someone voluntarily places themselves in the public eye in order to generate income by being social media "influencers", they had better be prepared to take the good with the bad... including other people expressing their opinions.
DeletePraying for this dear Family, 1John 1:9 God is Faithful to forgive and cleanse us. Jesus gave His Life, for our Eternal Life.
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DeleteI was leery from the get go about Travis going to nursing school. I was never comfortable with that and felt it was a bad idea, but who am I? Just a random person who checks a blog? Like i had any right to express such a thing. I'm shocked and yet not surprised. I knew this nursing school thing was a bad idea.
ReplyDeleteWhy blame it on nursing school or any school? He needs to control himself
DeleteHe's supposed to be the provider. He has two small children. He needs a way to earn a living.
DeleteHe's a college graduate. I'm sure he can find a job to support his family. It's obvious he can't handle being around young nursing students so maybe that's not the path he should take until he develops self-control.
Delete6:42. Well said…if he can’t change his character and control his urges ..he will cheat wherever he works.
DeleteI think that anytime you have a patriarchal religious system, men are prone to a false sense of power, superiority and entitlement. Women are then left vulnerable, as they're not encouraged to be independent, question anything, or think for themselves. Quite frankly, I wouldn't trust any man who buys into this. Too often, the system is used as a cover for their nefarious or deceitful actions. If caught, it's put upon the woman to simply pray, forgive and forget and they're reminded that we're all "sinners." I call it gaslighting.
ReplyDeleteThis rat had to publicly humiliate her while she's recovering from a miscarriage >:-( What a husband !
ReplyDeleteJust because Travis is a supposed Christian doesn't always mean he is going to be faithful. Travis is no better than anybody else. People seem to obsess with these families that they are better than everyone else. Not true.
ReplyDeleteI don't think the Bates are all that much better than the rest of us. Nor are
DeleteChristians immune from affairs. Just look at how many pastors have been caught having affairs.
The Bible says, For ALL have sinned, and come short of the glory of God. Rom. 3:23. (Caps mine). It also says that our good works (righteousnesses) are as filthy rags. (Isa. 64:6). This is why Jesus had to die for our sins. He knew that we could not get to heaven by our own efforts. The Bible says that God so loved the world, that whosoever BELIEVETH in Him, should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:16 (Caps mine.)
DeleteOur only hope for heaven, is to believe that Christ died for our sins. Then, the Bible says that we SHOULD do good works, so as not to be disciplined or even scourged by God in this life, plus miss out on rewards both here and in the next. (See Eph. 2:8-10; Titus 3:5-8; Heb. 12:5-11; 1 Cor. 3:10-15.)
They both need to grow up. Very in mature for their ages. Both seem to want it all. Well will see how nursing school goes. Music career didn't work out what's next?
ReplyDeleteA career in music was always a long shot. Very few people make enough money as musician to support a family. Nursing is a more realistic option as a career.
DeleteWe are not seeing peoples real lives on a YouTube channel. People pick and choose what they are going to share, they only show the peaches and cream, not reality. Putting something on YouTube and getting sponsors, is to get money and things, expensive cars, mansion, etc. We are not seeing what happens when the camera is off. The tv show is why they have a following, but that is the same thing, all peaches and cream, not real life, a way to make money. If they want privacy, get off social media and take YouTube channels down, and live your life.
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DeleteI hope Travis realizes it can take a long time to overcome the feelings. A person can get to being stronger and putting down feelings that would be wrong to try to fulfill. Also, there is a subtle spirit that always tries to get at a person through thoughts that seem integral to the person but are definitely wrong. There is no two ways about it. Another thing the young woman he had an illigitimate adulterous affair with still has every chance to have her own unfettered life partner to marry, (not Travis). It is best for Travis to just to "cruelly abandon her", no need to have anything more to do with her. (She is in the position to claim she is pregnant, but that could be false. If it were true things get more complicated. ) I've heard one thing about intimate involvement with another person is it is a phenomena that no matter how awkward a pair they are, the couple gets a desire to perpetuate the relationship and make it work out long term no matter how unreasonable. People should be aware it's not easy being easy because there are divers forces like that at play. Just direct yourself to the shore and slog it out until you are on dry firm ground and don't go back in there again.
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ReplyDelete"Oh gather round brethren, and listen to this hymn about how evil battles virtue and the fight to sink or swim...
There is a lost sheep that I know of caught in Satan's web of sin and I sing pray for the forgiveness of the evil plight he is in."
"There are parameters to the relationship that cannot be altered or changed. So I think it is important that they know about those parameters."
Ya parameters that can't be altered or changed according to the Lord Jesus said, "A man who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery."
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