Two days ago, Travis Clark publicly confessed to cheating on his wife, Katie Clark. Today, Katie broke the silence and responded. You can read her statement in an article written by People Magazine.
Two days ago, Travis Clark publicly confessed to cheating on his wife, Katie Clark. Today, Katie broke the silence and responded. You can read her statement in an article written by People Magazine.
That was a sweet humble response to such a cruel betrayal. Sure glad she is taking it slowly. If she does stay with him it will take a lifetime to forget this affair..like they say, it’s easier to forgive than forget. Everyone is different in their expectations. My husband and I agreed when we married over 50 years ago that infidelity would be a deal breaker for our marriage. We both felt that such a deep betrayal could never be excused.
ReplyDeleteIf people want to get married young and start a family they should work through growing pains without divorcing, the children need their family to stay together. It is mean for a man to break in a young woman turn her into a wife and mother and abandon her for a younger model that builds up his Hugh Hefner ego.
DeleteEveryone sees these fundy video women give birth more than one time. The public basically sees every thing but a few discreet minutes or points of view. Holding up an impossible to live out standard of purity is inconsistent with showing everyone almost everything.
These people can't seriously use impurity as a reason to leave each other. They should use their brains and stay together because it is right to do that, mind over matter. When the mind has images that are disturbing they should just think that is not something that was particularly valued because failures are par for the course we started on, there potentially to occur. What I really value is staying together and growing together as one in life this is the value I want.
I realize Katie is terribly hurt. She not only is having to deal with Travis' affair, but has suffered a miscarriage as well. Of course we don't know how long ago she found out about the affair. I kinda believe it may have been a little while ago and maybe the stress caused the loss of the baby. That may have attributed to Travis' guilt which led him to publicily confess. Which I believe was wrong. This was a private matter. I admire Katie for saying she wants to try to work through this and save their marriage. I sincerely hope they can. My prayers are with their family. God and time can heal!
ReplyDeleteShe's a big girl and will figure it out. Just like others in the past.
ReplyDelete❤️ Praying for Katie, May God Bless and Protect You and the Children truly!
ReplyDeletePrivacy was asked for, yet statements to Parade & People magazine, a baby was lost, a husband cheated, and it is in magazines and on the internet.
ReplyDelete@7:06 They want their cake and eat it too.
Delete@7:06 they did not give photos and statements to People. People quoted the public statement they shared on social media as they do with thousands of tabloid articles about celebs from Hollywood (not exclusive, no money). The article didn't even quote "anonymous sources close to the family" as there was a public statement available to quote. The articles about weddings and babies that make up a multi-page spread always say "People Exclusive" and contain interviews and photos not shared anywhere else (couple or their fav charity receives payment). The bloggers at this site shared the link because it is not behind a member paywall as Instagram posts are.
DeleteI do not believe couples need to stay married no matter what. Travis wants out, and I hope Katie agrees to a divorce rather than stay and have the same painful experiences over an over, just because she has to obey her religion. She is young and can remarry a good man who wants her and treats her well. Not another Anna Duggar.
ReplyDelete11:25 I totally agree. The Bible is very clear about adultery and she has every right to divorce him. Some of these comments are troubling to me, trying to give Travis leeway in his grievous break of the marriage vows. This has nothing to do with them being young, him being around girls at nursing school or them being immature. This has everything to do with Travis betraying his wife …this has to do with his character. Only married four years and he is cheating on her. How could she ever trust him when the true heartaches of life come after years of marriage. I hope she realizes she is worth more than a liar and cheater.
DeletePity she couldn't refrain from making public statements.
ReplyDeleteI don't know why you say it is a pity that she made a public statement. They shared everything else, why not her reaction to a marriage problem? I think Travis was trying to be secretive, but was that a good thing?
DeleteThis is a bad soap opera that has no need to play out in public!
DeleteThis is awkward. They're like two five year olds fighting in a sandbox. I don't think either one of them is mature enough to be married.
ReplyDeleteI don't know how this is like 5 year olds fighting in a sand box.
DeleteGosh....we are all sinners...no one is righteous, no not one. This is why we all need Jesus.
ReplyDeleteMatthew 5.27 "For I say to you...he who looks at a women lustfully has committed adultery in his heart". I bet all men have lusted.
Marriage can be restored after unfaithfulness, I've seen it. I pray for God's healing and guidance for all.
It's one thing to "lust" in your mind, which is human nature, but quite another to act upon it. Adultery is an ultimate betrayal of trust, and no spouse should feel obligated or pressured to restore such a marriage.
DeleteLaurieD. Your message implies that it's up to the betrayed spouse to just accept that "boys will be boys" and stay in the marriage. Absolutely no one should be pressured or gaslit into thinking they have an obligation to stay with a cheating partner.
Delete"Social media is part of my work." I bet she now regrets making her life an open book for an income. This could have been kept private if they didn't rely on the public for money. "Prior commitments." Sounds like she had paid influencer gigs she has to do no matter what. I'm sure her heart won't be in them. What a life.
ReplyDeleteI completely understand Katie wanting to work on her marriage, I know she loves Travis and is thinking about the impact a divorce would have on her children. I just want to tell her that Travis didn't make a mistake, he made a choice, a choice to step out on their marriage. If she stays with him she is going to have to forgive him fully and not be suspicious of everything he does. Katie has already admitted on a past youtube video that she gets jealous of girls talking to Travis. That means Travis won't be able to talk to or look at another girl without Katie thinking he's cheating. She will be obsessed with checking his phone, monitoring everywhere he goes, monitoring who he's talking to, etc. You can't decide to stay with a cheater and worry about whether they are going to cheat again. If you become obsessed with everything he does you will drive a huge wedge between both of you potentially causing a future divorce. If Travis decides to cheat again in the future, you obsessing or worrying about it won't make it not happen and the worry will eat you alive.
ReplyDeleteKatie’s response was lovely!
ReplyDeleteThe IBLP influence is strong so Katie wants to "preserve" her marriage and shrugs off the affair. Sigh
ReplyDeleteKatie is not shrugging off the affair. She is just not making a rash decision at this point. Not only is she getting individual counseling and couple counseling - she also has legal counsel. All options and outcomes are on the table. I'm surprised you didn't notice that.
DeleteExcellent observation!
DeleteAnon 2:16 I don't see it that way. Katie gives no indication that the affair hurt or damaged her in any way. It was more like her goal is to avoid the stigma of a divorce. IMO it would be better if they work things out without talking to gossip magazines.
DeleteKatie certainly did give every indication that she has been deeply hurt. You are totally misreading what she said. I can't believe you interpreted her statement the way you did. Your interpretation is totally different from what she was trying to convey.
Delete@3:59 You have no clue how Katie feels about being betrayed by her husband and then having it play out in public. BTW... divorce will carry a stigma only if you let it, or let other people make you feel bad or guilty about it.
Delete@ 2:16 pm I agree with you completely! Praying for Katie’s heart to be comforted by God’s love for her and that she will have God’s wisdom and discernment and to not rush into any decision.
DeleteI know everyone is feeling horrible for Katie. Rightfully so. But, my heart is also breaking for Travis. I have watched these two over the years. They are like watching high-schoolers playing house. Wealthy, but very immature. Now I am not in anyway excusing Travis. He chose to marry. He chose to have children. He chose, with Katie, to sell their private lives. He chose adultery. But, what I also see, as a seasoned older woman married many decades, is a young man who lost all his identity. He became “Mr. Travis Bates”. He is going to live with the consequences of his choices..forever. And, he’s still so very young. For that I have great empathy.
ReplyDeleteWell said. Some of these comments might be a little less harsh if people thought of Travis as their son. There is no excuse for an affair, but I think many things led him to act on his temptations. There is plenty of forgiveness for everyone if they seek forgiveness with Jesus
DeleteTravis's parents must not have tried to intervene in any of that or steer their son straight.
Delete4:56 oh come on..Mr. Travis Bates..if he felt that way it’s kinda sick. He had no excuse to commit adultery. Sounds like it would be best for Katie to leave him now before he repeats his behavior. If my son did something like that I would be side with my daughter-in-law, no excuse for adultery.
DeleteSo beautifully stated
Delete@1:46 You said there's "no excuse for an affair", but then literally followed that with a excuse for an affair..."many things led him to act on his temptations."
DeletePeople shouldn’t shame them for making it public and especially not shame her for her response. They made their lives public. Most people speculate that it was going to come out anyway. Therefore, they just got out in front of it. Obviously, magazines like people were going to take advantage and publish info. They have for years about the Bates and the Duggsrs. So, I don’t blame them for gettint their version of the story out to get ahead of it. I’m sure Katie knew people would expect a response for her. It was a well thought out and graceful response. She said she agreed for him to go public. So, I don’t think he sid it to hurt her even more. Yes, everyone has opinions. What she needs is support and not judgement for whatever decision she makes. I don’t exactly feel like he deserves the same grace as she does. She has family and friends for support but needs public support instead of scrutiny too.
ReplyDeleteIn the meantime, it may be wise to put off another pregnancy especially after having just losing a baby. I hope Katie can recover in peace.
ReplyDeleteYa think? If Katie is wise, she'll find herself a good divorce lawyer and not even consider having any more kids with this loser.
Delete1\22 @ 1:33....you said it all right there. Excellent observation.
ReplyDeleteWhatever this young woman decides to do moving forward, I don't think it's a good idea to include being a social media "influencer." I get that these Christian mega families think of it as some calling to share their testimonies, but the reality is they're presenting a white-washed and scripted narrative of their lives. At the end of the day, they're no better than anyone else. Your family's privacy should be the #1 priorty, not clicks, views, likes and ad revenue.
ReplyDelete@12:40. Yes. They were handed a bigger house and cash on a silver platter and became quite accustomed to getting things that way. The kids are now riding those coattails and think it's easy money if you film your private life. If I were their parent, I'd tell them to put the camera down and pick up the college or trade school textbooks. Yeah I know what happened when Travis did that, but a great way to earn a living is to have some kind of education past high school. You're right about the white-washing and scripting, too. A lot of people bought it at face value. A lot of people were skeptical too but told to sit down because things are ducky. Well they weren't.
DeleteThey ALL need to step away from social media and learn how to live and support themselves by themselves. Influencer life is not healthy mentally or sustainable long-term financially. They are at the time in their lives that they need to build for the future. Build things that will last like education, skills, or a work resume. They've been like kids having fun at a birthday party. Well party's over and the balloons are popping and what do you do next?
DeleteI agree. I can't understand why anyone would think it was a "calling or ministry" to let stangers watch you give birth to your children.
DeleteI believe that Katie's attorney mostly wrote her statement. No lawyer would have allowed anything going out there without their oversight and approval.
ReplyDeleteThese families need to stay off fakebook Instagram etc . They aren't movie stars or celebrities , Lead a private quiet life.
ReplyDeleteThey're riding the coat tails of the TV show and still think they're "celebrities".
DeleteI have watched Bringing Up Bates and was so sad when it got cancelled. I do follow all the kids who have YouTube Channels. I’m not a uber religious person in fact struggle with my beliefs in many ways. Watching them always made me want to bring religion more into my life. I’m in my 50’s been married for 31 years. I have not been cheated on “that I know of” so I can’t say I know how Katie feels or what she should do for that matter. I feel bad for the little Clark family of four and hope they can work it out it that is their desire. No judgment here… just best if wishes in the decision that is made!💔
ReplyDeleteI know this is belated but I pray for you as you wish to have more religion in your life - may you know that God loves you and would love to have a close relationship with you!
DeleteKatie you are beautiful, and your response was even more BEAUTIFUL, so Cristlike and with that sweet spirit you will only shine more and more because of Jesus. Wishing you and Travis healing and grace and maybe someday you two be able to help other couples through similar experiences. May JESUS heal.
ReplyDeleteI have to wonder what you'd have to say if she decides to divorce Travis. Will you think of her response as "beautiful" and that she still has a "sweet spirit"?
Delete@7:17am I didn’t write the comment you are referring to, but I am guessing they most certainly would think Katie is Beautiful and has a Sweet Spirit “still”’ if she divorces Travis.
DeleteI pray there can be true repentance on Travis’ part and healing, and redemption for their marriage,
BUT that is between them and what Katie decides is right for her and her children. Whatever happens Katie knows her God will never betray her and God will see her through this painful trial in her life. God Bless this family and wisdom and discernment for Katie.
My parents had an episode of this when I was in grade 3. I walked home from my friends and witnessed my Dad kicking out my Mom.
ReplyDeleteIt took a year or two of partial separations and even some consideration of divorce, but they worked through it and stayed together. My Dad realized he would live devastated without my Mom. And my Mom realized her home was with my Dad and their children. The years following were always very happy ones for our family. A restored household was then the greatest state of happiness for them and for all their children.
If Travis has any character at all he will admit wrong doing and not sin again. There should be redemption for this young Clark family. However it needs to be real, it would not be decent to expect Katie to abide an open relationship and call it a healed marriage.
The Bible says what God joins together let not "man" put asunder, the direction under God for Katie and Travis would be marriage reconciliation and maintaining a Christian home. Jesus said who can throw the first stone to end it all?(answer -no one)....but he also said do not sin again to the adulterers. Their humble little children are like Jesus on the cross saying Father forgive them, they know not what they do. When I saw my Dad kick out my Mother, inside of my heart it was like smashing a crystal ball. Sin broke my beautiful world, but God restored it again. There really is victory in Jesus!.
9:39. The problem with your scripture is it referring to all us sinner. This is an issue of adultery which is clearly addressed in the Bible..and is the only Biblical reason given for divorce. Let’s not gloss over Travis serious act of adultery. This is reason for Katie to divorce him..time will tell if she takes the Biblical way out and divorces him.
ReplyDeleteDivorcing him is not "the Biblical way out." The Bible never tells people they "should" get divorced in that situation.
DeleteThe Lord Jesus said that divorce was given through Moses only because of the people's hardness of heart but it was not this way from the beginning. Divorce does not have to be laid out as a command from the Lord in cases of adultery.
DeleteMight be time to retire this website about this family. To much time spent on how we look and expensive clothes we wear. Focus on life and family. God Bless
ReplyDeleteI don't recall any posts about what expensive clothes they wear.
DeleteWhat are you talking about? This website posts family news - births, house changes, travel, etc.
Delete@7:10 That’s never been a thing on this blog. They share the good, the bad & everything in between about the family. Nothing wrong with it!
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