tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post6800768483357809653..comments2024-03-28T20:26:57.610-05:00Comments on Bates Family Blog: Bates Updates and Pictures | Gil and Kelly | 19 Kids | Bringing Up Bates | UP TV: Carlin Bates and Evan StewartLily and Elliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00941253435533935093noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-72754655233340860952017-09-15T11:20:19.612-05:002017-09-15T11:20:19.612-05:00what is a Evan Stewart middle name what is a Evan Stewart middle name Long Nguyennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-64471516688374174932017-06-26T09:01:57.667-05:002017-06-26T09:01:57.667-05:00I know Evan and he is an amazing, Godly young man....I know Evan and he is an amazing, Godly young man. She seems very sweet and we wish them the best!Mrs. S.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-46912397962726314522017-06-09T19:32:30.349-05:002017-06-09T19:32:30.349-05:00Carlin is such a lovely young girl.You guys have d... Carlin is such a lovely young girl.You guys have done a great job bringing your kids up in the admonition of the Lord,but please don't let Carlin get married too soon. I saw the show last night and to be honest, I dont think the young man is as into her as she is into him. Please give her a chance to really get to know him before allowing her to get married. God bless you. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-22925746780733286672017-04-05T15:03:24.052-05:002017-04-05T15:03:24.052-05:00Oh gosh he's cute. Carlin deserves the best!Oh gosh he's cute. Carlin deserves the best!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-9768596851718554902017-04-02T11:16:10.141-05:002017-04-02T11:16:10.141-05:00congratulations as you progress in gettin to kno e...congratulations as you progress in gettin to kno each otherZarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15631875825174692865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-89881171050885556772017-03-30T17:33:44.455-05:002017-03-30T17:33:44.455-05:00Excited for them!Excited for them!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-14853609077760193182017-03-30T07:44:37.655-05:002017-03-30T07:44:37.655-05:00"Annie"...good comment. I agree that mor..."Annie"...good comment. I agree that more latitude is better for an inexperienced young girl. I hope this family realizes that it's not sinful to let their daughter breathe a bit, unlike the Duggar family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-38137849678712940002017-03-29T18:46:55.174-05:002017-03-29T18:46:55.174-05:00Agreed! My family is a similar type of christian, ...Agreed! My family is a similar type of christian, and it's nice to know there other people who have similar morals. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-60425362805978711652017-03-29T09:24:53.876-05:002017-03-29T09:24:53.876-05:00yep! I agree yep! I agree Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15689388912987422660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-61631417836768739142017-03-28T23:00:24.641-05:002017-03-28T23:00:24.641-05:00I wonder as more of the kids go to college if they...I wonder as more of the kids go to college if they might end up liking and eventually marrying someone who is more secular. For example, Bobby apparently was not part of the religious sect that requires courtship since he had to ask what it entailed. As if the girls marry someone who is spiritual but not part of the IBLP movement perhaps they might practice birth control. Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13903673821002397907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-71915565650938123952017-03-28T13:00:36.998-05:002017-03-28T13:00:36.998-05:00Don't the Bates tend to marry young though? I ...Don't the Bates tend to marry young though? I went to college downstate illinois and most small town girls that I met were more.than ready to marry after college so around 21 years old?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-81597406068634172312017-03-28T12:55:07.146-05:002017-03-28T12:55:07.146-05:00They are just following their religions guidelines...They are just following their religions guidelines regarding dating aren't they? I don't think that I could "date"the way the Bates family does but their marriages seem very loving and solid so it works for them. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-75680622951069587252017-03-28T10:56:16.062-05:002017-03-28T10:56:16.062-05:00For those asking, the way I understand it is that ...For those asking, the way I understand it is that the unofficial boyfriend/girlfriend phase is just a chance for them to get to know each other as really (really) good friends. But courtship is different- courtship is dating with a serious intent of marriage. When a couple is courting, they are really considering marriage. Its like very serious dating to them. Is this the way I've chosen to go about my dating life? No. And its probably not the way you've chosen (or would have chose) to go about yours. But it works for the Bates family and helps them stick to their beliefs and values. The difference between that unofficial phase and courting may be small to some but there is a difference. Also, thank you Lilly and Ellie for all the work you do to keep this blog and the Duggar blog updated!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-73088090073885385312017-03-28T09:27:57.260-05:002017-03-28T09:27:57.260-05:00I think the Bates give their children more freedom...I think the Bates give their children more freedom to initially choose their girlfriends/boyfriends. It seems like the teens have large groups of friends and fall in love spontaneously. I'm sure Gil has many hard questions for the guys before engagement, but at least they are allowed to let natural feelings develop before that. The Duggars, on the other hand, vet every single guy before they're allowed to talk to the girls with the intent of courtship. I understand it's a protective measure, but in my experience it put lots of pressure on very new relationships to get married fast, and also limits the girls' prospects. They will tend to choose the first guy Dad approves of rather than naturally developing feelings for a good friend.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13129525080717238657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-74974616361535773422017-03-28T09:09:28.219-05:002017-03-28T09:09:28.219-05:00My thoughts exactly. :)My thoughts exactly. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08267789682943059754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-64528373297294619002017-03-28T08:43:52.785-05:002017-03-28T08:43:52.785-05:00These kids aren't dating. Dating implies that ...These kids aren't dating. Dating implies that they are allowed to spend time together alone...go out to eat without a chaperone, to a movie, walk, sporting events and the like. They aren't allowed any of those things without a chaperone or two with them at all times. Did he have to fill out a 50 page application and submit it to her father like the Duggar suitors have to? This is a serious question, not insulting this family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-12309862772051087852017-03-28T08:36:18.466-05:002017-03-28T08:36:18.466-05:00IKR! Love the Bates! IKR! Love the Bates! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-27857912381535381232017-03-28T07:41:40.419-05:002017-03-28T07:41:40.419-05:00I completely agree! I see no real difference betwe...I completely agree! I see no real difference between this "unofficial" period where they call each other boyfriend/girlfriend and dating (or even courting, for that matter). You can still "date" with the intention of getting to know a person and saving the physical for marriage!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-34363738924103000082017-03-28T00:17:55.851-05:002017-03-28T00:17:55.851-05:00I'm almost 20 and I don't, & never hav...I'm almost 20 and I don't, & never have had a boyfriend. We're still young. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06804605284727106724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-50147349986236742702017-03-27T22:36:46.467-05:002017-03-27T22:36:46.467-05:00Anon. 2:57 - I know. I know. It's just her way...Anon. 2:57 - I know. I know. It's just her way of saying that we're "adults" know, so it's a bit surreal seeing people our age walking towards the altar.SuperJames526https://www.blogger.com/profile/12886627770428646871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-72153026119787711162017-03-27T21:41:57.316-05:002017-03-27T21:41:57.316-05:00Carlin, Im so happy for you and your boy friend Ev...Carlin, Im so happy for you and your boy friend Evan. So glad you had a wonderful time. You are such a Awesome Couple. Love your friend Jodi. 2017.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-2185499884423956292017-03-27T21:17:41.514-05:002017-03-27T21:17:41.514-05:00They're not in a courtship but they call each ...They're not in a courtship but they call each other boyfriend and girlfriend?... That's confusing but to each his own. How exciting!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-80069430028428818852017-03-27T19:54:01.126-05:002017-03-27T19:54:01.126-05:00Wow he could definitely be Bobby's brother. A ...Wow he could definitely be Bobby's brother. A sweet lovely young lady.blessing to them both.nice to see young people with morals instead of the nasty people at spring break half naked drunk and "twerking" the Bates are a breath of fresh air. Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13249596638155929101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-71421809772312202712017-03-27T19:06:43.007-05:002017-03-27T19:06:43.007-05:00I think they should just drop the "courtship&...I think they should just drop the "courtship" act. The Bates girls are dating and there's no other way to put it. Just let them say they're dating! There's nothing wrong with it. Christians can date and still remain pure. It happens all the time. But suddenly they have to add an "unofficial time before courtship where they call each other boyfriend and girlfriend" is just trying to extend their rules. Just drop it and let your kids have beautiful relationships. Marriages last without them. I have so many friends who just "dated" and their marriages are still intact. And we're Catholic! So it totally works. ;) But lots of Luck to carlin - and tori too! I wish them the best! They are sweet girls raised by great parents. I'm glad to see them growing up and finding nice boys. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-13260867760316296552017-03-27T17:03:40.385-05:002017-03-27T17:03:40.385-05:00They're not courting but they're calling e...They're not courting but they're calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend so... Isn't that the same as dating?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com