Two days ago, Katie Clark, mom to Hailey Clark and Harvey Clark, announced that she had recently suffered a miscarriage. Late last night, Travis Clark posted a confession to his social media. The nursing school student states that he had an affair. Parade wrote an article that contains the statement. We know the Clark and Bates families, especially Katie and her children, would appreciate prayer and privacy during this time.
I truly hope Katie isn’t pressured to forgive Travis right away. Katie needs to heal. Such an incredible pain and embarrassment to put her through. Reading his apology it makes me wonder if he wants to be with Katie. Seems like he has given up or doesn’t want to be taken back. I saw the picture of the girl he cheated with. What hurts me as a viewer the most is truly believing he was a man of God. No man of God would do that to his wife and children.
ReplyDeleteIf they want "privacy" they shouldn't post this sort of stuff on the internet.
ReplyDelete@10:09 I feel he had to do it before the other woman had a chance to. She held all the cards when this was a secret.
DeleteI'm hearing the woman he cheated with was going to go public with it.
DeleteExactly. 90% of population would have never known about Travis'infidelity if he had not posted that statement. Now the world knows
DeleteSuch a betrayal is devastating, but that it's public just makes it more so. I sincerely hope that Katie isn't pressured into staying with this guy. This should be another wake up call to everyone who thinks these Christian celebrity mega families are living perfect lives. The old adage applies... if it looks to good to be true, it likely is.
ReplyDelete@10:26 Agree. The call is always coming from inside the house. Don't idolize these people or their lifestyles. Stop giving them attention. They are not superhuman. They do wrong things, despite how influential, squeaky clean, or "saved" they want you to believe they are. They lure you in with that and then the whopping secrets come out. Who are the people you know who are the best examples of good behavior and lives well lived? I'll bet you they were never on a TV reality show, or associated with one.
DeleteI can't believe the affair is true! So sad. I heard rumors of it, but didn't believe it for one second...there's so much rubbish out there. That's very sad that Katie had a miscarriage too. Too sad.
ReplyDeleteIt seems to me that they should have been concerned about their privacy, especially the privacy of their children, a long time ago. That train has left the station.
ReplyDeleteI am sadly not surprised at all. This is what happens when you get married too young. I hope Katie divorces him.
ReplyDeletePrivacy....so we announce this to the entire world. And we allow every tabloid and (paid) magazine to publish the story. I don't get that. They really don't get it either.
ReplyDeleteIf they really wanted privacy, they wouldn't be on social media like they are.
DeleteTOTALLY AGREE. The immaturity from all of them is truly unreal.
DeleteTravis has certainly caused a stir in this pristine family. I hope none of the others have this kind of confession to make.
ReplyDeleteWhy am I not surprised. Two youngsters from sheltered backgrounds, barely old enough to be legal, get married and have kids bam bam bam. One gets a taste of what the rest of the world is like and that's it. If this isn't a cry from a miserable Travis to be let out of his responsibilities, if this isn't a reality to getting married young and not learning about yourself by dating and getting an education first, I don't know what is. "Traditional values"? Travis just pulled the oldest trick in the book.
ReplyDeleteGuess what? People from every background, every age, whenever they get married have affairs. It is shocking and awful and a nasty side to human nature that sadly occurs too often throughout time.
DeleteSo very sorry to hear this sad news. Katie (and Travis), you are in our prayers. Take it one day, sometimes one hour at a time and know that God will lead you through all of this.
ReplyDeletePraying for y’all❤️trust God and He will see you through these hard times!!
DeleteThis news was a shock to hear. I am sending my best wishes to Katie, as she deals with such a difficult time.
ReplyDeletePoor sweet girl. My heart breaks for her and those who love her.
ReplyDeleteWas that really a necessary thing for him to acknowledge/confess publicly? I'm not talking about her miscarriage. It's ok to keep some things between you and your wife. My heart goes out to Katie. What a way to start a new year.❤️
ReplyDeleteYes it was necessary for T to put out a statement to stop the rumours from growing & potentially vilifying & humiliating Katie further & causing more pain. I doubt either of them will engage much on social media anymore.
DeleteSadly it seems T totally overstretched himself moving state away from his parents & hometown, new home, nursing school, producing music & tours & editing for what was their YouTube channel. An exhausted brain & body leads to compromising boundaries & a weary soul overtime leads to escapism of some sort. This is not an excuse for his behaviour by any means because he could have stopped any of those things & said it's too much, just insight to how it can easily happen.
So much for purity culture creating moral superiority. It doesn't. It was the foundation for the Bates' and Duggar's narrative though. That foundation has well crumbled, not just with those families but throughout their church world.
ReplyDeleteThey will use his behavior to justify their avoidance of public school, colleges, and “real” jobs. The evils of nursing school led him to this abhorrent behavior!
ReplyDelete1:17 Riiiiiight. It couldn't possibly have been his own weakness and bad choices, could it. Has to be that dangerous "worldly" influence that everyone else is doing. An attack!
DeleteI was thinking the same thing. They'll blame the schools
DeleteI can't believe Travis chose to publicly humiliate Katie. Publicly confessing his sin and yes that's what it is, won't take it away. Only God can heal those kinds of wounds. These children were way too young to get married in the first place. Neither of them had experienced living. There is a difference between real love and lust. That is why dating different people instead of marrying the first person you go out with is how you find out who the right person is. No I didn't say have premarital sexual relationships which are also a sin, but just take the time to figure out what's right. I sincerely hope they can find a way to mend this broken trust and put their marriage back together. It will take a lot of work, but it's possible. God bless your family.
ReplyDeleteKatie isn’t humiliated or responsible for his sin. Put the blame where it belongs.
DeleteI never would’ve expected it from Travis. Extremely disappointed in him!
ReplyDeleteI'm disappointed when it rains on a parade. Travis' betrayal and public announcement of it after his wife miscarried is absolutely horrifying.
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ReplyDeleteI hope they save their marriage and his affair ended.
ReplyDeleteHer brothers need to have a conversation with him - behind the wood shed
ReplyDeleteYes, then he'll stay with her because he's afraid of getting beaten up again. Just what every woman wants.
DeleteOh please. Her brothers need to stay out of it and let them solve their marital issues on their own.
DeleteRepeatedly... Now there's a choice.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sad for Katie and her children and so glad she has a supportive family to help her deal with the loss of her spouse and child.
ReplyDeleteMy heart feels completely broken for Katie.
ReplyDeleteI'm not surprised, as they seemed unhappy together from the beginning. I feel like this marriage was forced upon them by their parents (especially Travis' parents) while they were both immature and unprepared for marriage. But what IS a surprise--is the need to post this on social media! And now that this bomb has been dropped publicly, we are supposed to give them privacy and pretend we didn't see it?
ReplyDeleteI thought his parents were the ones telling him to finish his degree first before getting married?
DeleteI wholeheartedly agree! Too young and different! However, to my recollection, it was Katie who was pushing the engagement and marriage. Travis wanted to complete his studies and he had to rush to buy and refurbish a house, get married before he finished school to give her what she wanted. Travis encouraged and wanted a Katie to go to Nursing school with him, but she opted to be a stay at home mom (nothing is wrong with that, but avid blessed the child who has their own). She like many of her siblings feel that they should push out one baby after the next and not excel or make something of themselves, which is so important because anything can happen (sickness, death, divorce), and what does she have to fall back on. Travis was frugal and Katie liked to spend at any expense. They were different, but it doesn’t excuse him having an affair!! No one knows what type of “affair” he had, but that’s between him, his wife and God!
DeleteI’m very sorry to hear this. Praying for Katie - Katie you’re an inspiration to me as a mom and a wife and I’ve been married almost 13 years with four kids. You are beautiful and so patient and kind to your family
ReplyDeleteSo utterly heart breaking!
ReplyDeleteI strongly believe that this should of remained private, Travis was wrong for what ever reason to share it. I have been following the Bates family for years and have no doubt this has caused immense pain, especially for Katy. The court of public opinion is a cruel and unforgiving place. I wish them well moving forward.
ReplyDeleteThis would never have remained private. It would have eventually leaked out; and if Travis had not confessed, I believe that it would have been much, much worse later on down the road. People would have not only been angry with him, but with everyone who knew him, including the Bates family ( they would have been accused of covering this up from the public).
DeleteSadly, Transparency is the price that one must pay for fame and fortune ( and let's face it, if Travis had not married a Bates, no one would know his name).
My guess is that he shared it publicly because the side chick threatened to do it herself and he beat her to it. I'd imagine that she got tired of seeing the wholesome posts on social media when she knew Travis was not so wholesome.
DeleteI heard about it,but didn't believe it at first until I saw stuff pouring all over social media about it. My heart goes out to Katie and the kids at this time. ❤️ I hope Travis can go to a good Christian counselor who deals with something like this and can work on saving his marriage to Katie. Maybe he should quit nursing school or go remotely online to avoid contact with female students so this doesn't end up happening again. I'm sure it was unintentional and just happened without it meaning to go too far and end up cheating on his wife. Sometimes friendships with classmates of the opposite sex can accidentally go too far. That's why you got to be careful if you are a student who is dating or married.
ReplyDelete"Christian counselor" - no! They'd only blame Katie and make things worse for her. "Unintentional" - no!! Totally intentional decision. Don't downplay what he did. "Just happened without it meaning to go too far." Again - no! You're implying that only going "so far" is OK but "too far" is not, and that's not true. There should be no "going" at all. "Accidentally" - what? He accidentally fell into her arms? Come on.
Delete"Good Christian counseling" didn't work out so well for the eldest Duggar. If Travis has to avoid any contact with females in the future, other than his wife, in order to avoid being tempted and having an affair, it means he cannot be trusted... ever.
Delete“Unintentional “ and “accidentally?” Nope! A lot of decisions are made when cheating and there’s time to stop before it starts. He did it “repeatedly.” No excuses. I hope she gets a divorce and has her family’s support.
Delete4:36 Cheating on your spouse is intentional. And it's no accident. An unintentional accident is when you trip and bump into someone, or forget to put the cap back on the toothpaste.
DeleteI don’t think quitting nursing school and hiding away from other people is a good solution. Adults have to learn how to handle temptations. If Travis can’t control himself then he needs counseling and help
DeleteI don’t think quitting nursing school and hiding away from other people is a good solution. Adults need to learn how to handle temptations. If Travis can’t control himself then he needs counseling and help.
Deleteplease keep this private
ReplyDeleteToo late unfortunately
DeleteSo sorry to hear that Katie suffered a miscarriage, my thoughts and prayers are with her. I was extremely shocked to hear of Travis's confession.
ReplyDeleteWhat shocked me even more if that was possible, Katie on social media visibly upset about losing a child, and then Travis's confession on social media.
Somethings should be kept private.
Hailey and Harvey will someday find out about what has happened, because of social media.
The post states please grant the Clark Family privacy, then why share such terrible happenings on social media?
Affairs don't just happen, you not only cheat on your spouse, you are also cheating on your children.
Hopefully, they get off social media.
So sorry Katie has to go through these two things at the same time! Each one would be bad enough on it’s own. 😢 Prayers going up for her!
ReplyDeleteThis is so awful. Why did Travis think admitting to this publicly would be wise?
ReplyDeleteHe is making a lot of bad choices. He not only cheated on his wife, but he also cheated on his kids, the time he spent with the person he cheated with, was time away from his kids.
DeleteHe probably got pressured by his own family or one of his in-laws to come clean about his affair before the tabloid's got to the story first.
DeleteHe probably was afraid to speak to her about it privately.
DeleteThat was my thought.
DeleteThis breaks my heart for Katie. So sorry you have endured back to back heartbreak. I'll be praying for you.
ReplyDeletePassed behavior is a very good indication of future behavior but people change if they want to. I'm sure Travis and Katie will decide what's best for them.
DeletePassed behavior is a very good indication of future behavior but people change if they want to. Travis and Katie will decide what's best for them
DeleteI have always said nothing is private in these families. To the above person who said FIND A GOOD CHRISTIAN counselor to talk to. Alot good it did JOSH. Get real. It's up to them if they want to move on not her parents' brothers etc. They are to Consenting ADULTS. You made this matter PRIVATE SO FACE THE MUSIC.
ReplyDeleteFor all those who say why did T make a public confession on social media - there was already rumours going around the last few weeks & to stop those rumours growing & all sorts said including Katie & causing her more pain I'm guessing he decided to make the statement to put an end to that. The secret was going to come out somehow. So sad.
ReplyDeletePoor Katie must be absolutely devastated & heartbroken - losing the baby & discovering her husbands infidelity within days .... such a heavy load to bear 😢
For those wondering why he would make it public — can you not see how people behave like vultures? Apparently rumors were already going around. Apparently people have enough time on their hands to stalk Katie’s social media to see what she posts (and why) and who she follows and unfollows. Because people behave this way, it’s better for him to get this part behind them so they can take a step forward without waiting for someone to do that for them. Unfortunately people thoroughly enjoy revealing these things.
ReplyDeleteFor the life of me, I cannot understand why people revel in something like this. There is only one perfect and righteous judge, and that is God. He knows what happened, how it happened, and when it happened, but bigger than that, He knows the heart behind it and He tells us that the heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked and no one can know it. So to blame so-called purity culture, or to blame their sheltered upbringing or to blame the fact that they didn’t go to college — whatever else you can come up with — shows a complete lack of understanding of human nature and of the heart because that’s where these things come from, so therefore, it can happen to anyone because we all have sin in our hearts that eventually can lead to outward sin. You’re not exempt from that because you didn’t have a sheltered upbringing and you’re not exempt from that because you went to college and you’re not exempt from that because you didn’t grow up in “purity culture.” Guess what? You can sin too, so the only thing that should be done right now is to pray for these two and for their children and for the incredible hurt that they are facing.
And for anyone who wants to come at me and say we don’t need to pray for Travis or he doesn’t deserve any pity, I’m not giving him pity. He’s going to live with this every day for the rest of his life. The book of Proverbs makes it clear that adultery brings a level of shame that never goes away. God is able to forgive and heal in time and that should be our only hope for them; not hoping she divorces him or hoping somebody learns a lesson — how cruel! I’m glad God doesn’t view us that way. Jesus died for our sin. I pray that Travis would humbly and truly repent, and that God would heal Katie’s broken heart which is going to take a lot of time but God is able.
The affair did not just happen. Travis knew right from wrong, and decided to cheat. He should never have put his apology on social media. Also, being so distraught, because of the loss of child, but then deciding to put it on social media, then asking for privacy.
ReplyDeleteI believe they have been sharing their lives for so long, they do not know what privacy means.
Praying will not keep this marriage together. Did Travis pray about whether he should have an affair, obviously not.
How was he able to look at Katie or his children every time he left the home to cheat?
I wonder what the timeline was. Did Travis have his affair a while ago, and that's why they shut down their YouTube channel? Through therapy, Katie decided to stay together, heal, and try for another baby? Then maybe when the miscarriage was announced, the woman he had the fling with, threatened him that she'd go public with the affair, out of jealousy? So Travis had to go public first?
ReplyDeleteYou all seem SHOCKED this Travis had an affair. Just because it's the Bates daughter your shocked . We have all fallen short of the GLORY OF GOD. No need to judge him. This family is no different then others. We aren't perfect people
ReplyDeleteGoing to college with a lot of female nurses.. At what age did they marry, and was Katie his first girlfriend? It’s not a good idea to get married so young in my opinion. The adolescent brain apparently doesn't mature unti age 25.
ReplyDeleteI think Travis will regret posting this news publicly. It might have made him feel better in the moment admitting the affair, but now the whole world knows and that will hurt Katie and the children further. I think they were too young to get married and I still remember watching a Bates video where Travis was getting heavy pressure from Katie’s siblings to give Katie an engagement ring. There is no excuse for an affair, but I do think Travis is under an incredible amount of pressure at school and home and wonder if the affair was some sort of an escape from reality for him. I believe they BOTH need marriage counseling. Although there is no excuse for having an affair, they both need to look at mistakes in the marriage and work hard to try to get things back on track if possible.
ReplyDeleteWhen you cheat on your spouse you are cheating on your family!
ReplyDeletePassed behavior is a very good indication of future behavior but people change if they want to. I'm sure with time Travis and Katie will decide what's best for them.
ReplyDeleteI feel so sad for Katie and her children. My prayers are with them.
ReplyDeleteThis is why every woman needs to work and/or go to college. A man is NOT a plan. Katie has no education or work experience, so what is she going to do? It's probably for the best that she lost the pregnancy as harsh as that sounds.
ReplyDeleteI pray she takes her kids and goes home for awhile. She needs love and support not a world or judgement.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for Katie and her kids. She is an incredible good mom and wife. She and her kids don't deserve that. Travis isn't a good human being. He says he is "christian" and goes to the church and sings christian music and by the other side He cheated on her and her kids repeatedly. A true Godly man never never never act as a liar. He is completely false. He doesn't respect Katie and their kids.
ReplyDeleteI hope Katie understands the reality and get divorced. She is so young and She can find an excellent man who loves and respects Her and Her kids too. Travis don't deserve that beautiful family. Katie deserve the best and their kids too. It' s not about religion, it's about dignity.
Oh my. To be honest, I don't think Travis wants to be married any longer or he wouldn't have set off that bomb on social media.
ReplyDeleteWow, what a shock and betrayal. My heart goes out to Katie. She has a lot to consider, divorce or stay with him. My life experiences have shown that if a man does that so early in the marriage and at such a young age they usually become repeat offenders. I would definitely not have anymore children with him, since down the road she may be raising the children alone. Poor Katie, losing a baby and having to deal with her husband broken’s vows, deepest sympathy to Katie..
ReplyDeleteTravis having a affair can lead to dangerous situations for your whole family. Feeling gets involved and you don't know what this woman will do to keep you. I don't know if you really want to save your marriage. It wasn't just one time but many. You can't be friends with the opposite sex. You was living a double life.
ReplyDeletehttps://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/lawson-bates-praises-sister-katie-bates-amid-travis-clark-cheating-scandal/
ReplyDeletePoor sweet Katie!
ReplyDeletePublically announcing your infidelity right after your wife miscarries is a whole new realm of cruelty. I think this young woman owes it to herself to get some serious professional counseling, and not the pray -it -away, forgive- and -forget kind. At the same time, she should seek out the services of a good divorce lawyer, IMO. This young adulterer is too immature and full of himself.
ReplyDeleteKatie, take your kids and run
ReplyDeleteThat was quite a revelation. I wonder what else is going on behind the scenes. Time for Gil and Kelly to do some damage control.
ReplyDeleteWow!!! Did not see that coming at all. He experienced a whole new world while getting his nursing degree. However still don’t make it right. Prayers for this family.
ReplyDeletePraying for y’all❤️trust God and He will see you through these hard times!!
ReplyDeleteThat poor girl he cheated with. Her life is also now a mess. What she did is all over the tabloids and internet. I can't imagine she feels safe right now. All for what? To get a man who is a proven cheater? She's young, foolishly carried on with a married man, and now has to live with that. I hope she gets counseling too. Nobody wins in these situations.
ReplyDeleteKatie is facing so much pain. I am praying for her. Sometimes life can be so very hard. It’s so sad
ReplyDeleteThis family is a OPEN BOOK! To public with births etc . Now this . So now you pay the price for it.
ReplyDeleteI agree with commentors..it was a big mistake for Travis to announce this grievous behavior in a public forum. After only four years of marriage, he is cheating..disgusting! His behavior is one of an egotistical man, bad enough he cheats..then he announces it publicly after his wife has just had a miscarriage. If I were her parents I would encourage her to get a divorce, she has a biblical reason. He doesn’t appear to be a man who wants to be married, and has caused her so much grief.
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