tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post5742641002121451019..comments2024-03-28T21:12:43.343-05:00Comments on Bates Family Blog: Bates Updates and Pictures | Gil and Kelly | 19 Kids | Bringing Up Bates | UP TV: 'Decorating Dilemmas and Job Decisions' RecapLily and Elliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00941253435533935093noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-37461412704070307242018-01-21T17:53:44.723-06:002018-01-21T17:53:44.723-06:00Our daughter had infertility problems. Her OB had...Our daughter had infertility problems. Her OB had her go on gluten free diet. She had our granddaughter in February 2015. She was not able to add gluten back into her diet but that is alright.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-57242406696911496872018-01-15T21:33:42.599-06:002018-01-15T21:33:42.599-06:007:45 am... Sometimes people don't know the rig...7:45 am... Sometimes people don't know the right thing to say if they've never had to face infertility. When I was in my 30s,married with 3 kids, I went back to school to complete my nursing degree. It was rough and I had no free time. There were 12 of us in the nursing class, all females. One of my classmates who was married, also in her 30s, was dealing with infertility. She was trying to organize a get together during our down time. I apologized and told her I couldn't make it because I already had something else planned with one of my kids. After that, she was nasty towards me for no reason. I was very hurt because I thought we were friends. A few months went by and I finally confronted her. She said just by me saying I couldn't get together after class because I needed to do something with my son was VERY HURTFUL to her because she couldn't have kids. She felt like it was a "dig" at her infertility. I was SHOCKED! i had no idea acknowledging I needed to get home to my kids was an insult or hurtful! My point is, sometimes others have no clue they've said the wrong thing! Or they don't know the right thing to say! Cut people some slack! <br /><br />Now, here's the rest of the story... Back then when I was in nursing school, I was a single mom, 3 kids, no child support payments, money was tight. I was jealous of my infertile classmate. She had a nice car, I had a junker, she had a nice home with nice furniture, I lived in a rental with bare bones furniture. Ran into my friend 10 years later. She was divorced and driving a junker car with 3 little kids in the back seat yelling and fighting with each other! She said her ex husband fell into drugs and didn't help support the kids. It was like we had switched places, except my kids were grown! I had the nice car, nice furniture and owned my own home. She was thrilled that she finally had kids and I was so happy for her I cried! I actually thought she had it made all those years ago, but I've learned, sometimes people don't have it as good as you may think! Be happy with what you have!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-40553864431485340062018-01-15T11:28:05.655-06:002018-01-15T11:28:05.655-06:00Thanks for the comment with some good perspective!...Thanks for the comment with some good perspective! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-36417527058874536402018-01-14T07:09:53.224-06:002018-01-14T07:09:53.224-06:00Yes, and "you can have mine". If they he...Yes, and "you can have mine". If they hear that one, I would dare them to say, "okay, meet you in the adoption office". My words for them is, I'm praying for you. And I do; every time the subject of infertility comes up, or I hear of someone thinking of giving their child up for adoption.Godly-Young-Widownoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-11141448160709842002018-01-13T14:47:01.364-06:002018-01-13T14:47:01.364-06:00I'll be honest. That's kind of mean to say...I'll be honest. That's kind of mean to say these comments are "patronizing" and "condescending". Please tell us what people are supposed to say. If people say nothing, then you would be upset, too. I know infertility is very sad but I can think of dozens of worse things in life. Honestly not trying to be mean but just trying to give perspective. And this is coming from an orphan and only child who was single and did not even find a husband until almost 40 years old so my life has been no bowl of cherries but I NEVER say that someone is patronizing or condescending; I just think that they are trying to be kind and don't really know what to say.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-7927157335643239212018-01-13T14:00:17.630-06:002018-01-13T14:00:17.630-06:00I go to this same pinstripes several times a month...I go to this same pinstripes several times a month. Great happy hour bites and good prices for bowling/bocce. Do they have some expensive food items? Yes but everywhere does. Focus more on their hard times getting pregnant than the dinnerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-7521735067754066672018-01-12T22:46:54.862-06:002018-01-12T22:46:54.862-06:00Yes they are saying things about ibuprofen now tha...Yes they are saying things about ibuprofen now that it causes infertility in men so maybe also it does in women. It took us 2 years to conceive our first child and I took Motrin daily for headaches. I had terrible headaches for years after 2 car accidents. Now it makes sense. I now have 4 children and each conception was different. The time it took to conceive my kids was: 24 months, 15 months, 3 years, and 18 months in that order. So for some women it’s not instant. I am happy with my kids spacing: ages 8, 6, 2.5, 4-months. All 4 times I noticed I got pregnant when I was doing a lot of physical activity like amping up my exercising. Love you Michael and Brandon! You are truly blessed to have such a great love!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-37230808264421708532018-01-12T15:09:39.416-06:002018-01-12T15:09:39.416-06:00LOVE the new house! I feel for Michael. It took us...LOVE the new house! I feel for Michael. It took us awhile to get pregnant. Its hard to not get sad when your heart aches for a baby. You guys are a great couple. It is hard when everyone around you is pregnant, for me it was. Your blessing is coming. I finally stopped stressing about getting pregnant and it happened. For me I stopped taking my allergy med and motrin during that time. I found it can interfere with ovulation. Of course Im not a MD. God bless you two!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-17456093396699201662018-01-12T14:07:25.360-06:002018-01-12T14:07:25.360-06:00Nice recap for Thurs 1/11/18. Lily & Ellie. Ti...Nice recap for Thurs 1/11/18. Lily & Ellie. Time 3:07PMNEDDY CONSTANTnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-62971882887468383952018-01-12T13:51:36.216-06:002018-01-12T13:51:36.216-06:00Loved this episode!!Loved this episode!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-73464815243500673402018-01-12T13:48:37.925-06:002018-01-12T13:48:37.925-06:00Good things to remember when I come across someone...Good things to remember when I come across someone in a similar circumstance. I'm sure the people who made the comments were only trying to comfort... but just the same good to know that those phrases are likely not comforting!Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08067196371404693463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-78421871291133369852018-01-12T11:01:58.012-06:002018-01-12T11:01:58.012-06:00Perhaps you could edit your comment so that it mak...Perhaps you could edit your comment so that it makes sense. Are those intended to be questions? What does bowling have to do with where they are renting? What is a "gothad church headquater"?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-40066804692682940222018-01-12T09:15:31.799-06:002018-01-12T09:15:31.799-06:00go bowling at pinstripes that place is super expen...go bowling at pinstripes that place is super expensive? guess we know where they are renting in near that gothad church headquater?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-50167114830879369772018-01-12T07:45:10.261-06:002018-01-12T07:45:10.261-06:00As someone who suffered from infertility, these ar...As someone who suffered from infertility, these are the top patronizing and condescending comments that made me cringe, every single time: <br />"It's God's will."<br />"It will happen in God's timing."<br />"Just trust in God."<br />"Just pray about it."<br />"You can always adopt."<br />"Be grateful for what you have."<br />"Has your husband been tested?"<br />"You need to see my chiropractor, my nutritionist, my sister-in-law who used this method, etc., etc., etc."<br /><br />My message to Michaela and Brandon is: "I am so sorry that you are having to endure this struggle. I wish only the best for you both." <br /><br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5387778566526841808.post-5938475134126813002018-01-11T23:23:28.189-06:002018-01-11T23:23:28.189-06:00Cool!Cool!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com